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NNadir

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17. Fidelity is extremely important to me.
Sun Jul 26, 2015, 01:58 PM
Jul 2015

When I was a kid, I tried to work some "open relationships" - it was considered "cool" at the time - but I always felt ill at ease, even in the single case where I cheated on my long term girlfriend.

After ten years of this sort of nonsense, I realized who I am. When I moved in with my last girlfriend - who became my wife - I made it clear that I was a one lover kind of guy.

One night, when we were first living together, her ex-boyfriend looked her up and invited her out to dinner. I said, "By all means, go." She did, friend to friend.

He asked her, "Doesn't your boyfriend mind you going out to dinner with your ex-boyfriend."

She told him, "He says that if he couldn't trust me, our relationship wouldn't mean anything." That's how I felt. I have never had any reason not to trust her.

It seems to have worked out; it's been thirty years, same woman, one woman, one lover, one best friend.

Every morning I wake up, realizing how fortunate I am; and every evening I fall asleep thinking the same thing. What is even more amazing is that when I think I couldn't possibly love her more; I manage to do so day after day.

Trust is great peace.

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Yes. elleng Jul 2015 #1
What about trust issues? Yavin4 Jul 2015 #2
I'll decide extent and type of relationship, elleng Jul 2015 #3
What if I was the one she cheated with? TreasonousBastard Jul 2015 #4
IMO: It is highly likely that if she cheated with you she will cheat on you. eom. In_The_Wind Jul 2015 #6
hmm, perhaps not so. Joe Shlabotnik Jul 2015 #15
Hmmmm... Marie Marie Jul 2015 #5
I don't think so. In_The_Wind Jul 2015 #7
Nope. There's plenty of other options to chose from Xipe Totec Jul 2015 #8
I was married to a cheater. He was a great guy in so many ways but I just couldn't mackerel Jul 2015 #9
No. My husband was a faithful guy (serial monogamy) before I married him and so was I riderinthestorm Jul 2015 #10
No RobinA Jul 2015 #11
Hell if I know DFW Jul 2015 #12
I think most women would agree... grasswire Jul 2015 #18
I think I would drive any woman who isn't my wife crazy. DFW Jul 2015 #20
Yes. ZombieHorde Jul 2015 #13
Sure Joe Shlabotnik Jul 2015 #14
No. LWolf Jul 2015 #16
Fidelity is extremely important to me. NNadir Jul 2015 #17
Depends. Every situation is different. Coventina Jul 2015 #19
What I don't know won't hurt me Facility Inspector Jul 2015 #21
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