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In reply to the discussion: At what point do you cut ties with a toxic family member? [View all]PoindexterOglethorpe
(25,841 posts)6. Once a person is out of high school or college
they need to be working and supporting themselves. Period.
This nephew is 20. He has a job. You've already bought him a car and made an offer to pay for college which he didn't accept. He's on his own. And no more offers to fix the car. He can pay a mechanic. If other family members choose to enable him, that's their doing, not yours.
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you may continue to allow his actions but chances are society will not . exiting and not enabling
lunasun
May 2017
#5
Thanks. I think we do need to rethink our approach. It has always been unconditional.
Coventina
May 2017
#14
Yes, he most definitely needs help. And, it is clear he is not (yet) interested in truly changing.
Coventina
May 2017
#32