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thucythucy

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26. Have you reached out to the disability community for help with Social Security?
Wed Jan 26, 2022, 02:20 PM
Jan 2022

Not knowing where you are in Minnesota I can't name a specific center, but you might start here:

https://mcil-mn.org/services/individual-advocacy/

Social Security--SSI or SSDI--is pretty much designed to be frustrating. As mentioned elsewhere on this thread, if they don't reject everyone the first time around, they come pretty damn close. The amount of paperwork and documentation required for a successful claim is obscene. This despite the bogus conservative myth that there's a huge amount of abuse. The truth is--the abuse is how many people need and deserve the services, but don't get them.

If the folks at this center can't help, I'm hoping they can direct you to someone who can. Minnesota has a reputation for having a really active and progressive disability rights community, so I'm hoping you'll be able to find someone to help you through the maze.

In the meantime, please try to hang in there. I attempted suicide when I was a teenager and came pretty close to succeeding (days in a coma, weeks in intensive care). The trauma I caused my family and loved ones haunts me still. I also hit my low point in the dead of a northern winter--the cold and the dark make everything worse. Being "sick and tired of being sick and tired"--yeah, I can definitely relate.

I can't from this distance offer anything like meaningful advice, except to say your husband no doubt needs you in ways you might not imagine or fully understand, being so far deep into depression as you seem to be. Reach out to him, reach out to others. There are people out there who will care. As for the rest of them: "Try not to let the bastards get you down."

Best wishes and please let us know how things go.

This may be it [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 OP
Please know you are not alone. MyMission Jan 2022 #1
Speaking as someone who lost a fiance to suicide femmedem Jan 2022 #2
My uncle had to hire a Social Security disability attorney Bluethroughu Jan 2022 #3
My sister had to do this. blueinredohio Jan 2022 #14
The do NOT automatically reject everyone the first time. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2022 #16
I agree with this. My mother was initially rejected rsdsharp Jan 2022 #18
Also, is your car fixable if you had the funds? femmedem Jan 2022 #4
Ie expect many DU's would contribute to a Go Fund 3Hotdogs Jan 2022 #5
Me too. I would. n/t femmedem Jan 2022 #8
+1 chowder66 Jan 2022 #34
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #6
Sending you my best DU vibes Wicked Blue Jan 2022 #7
Set up a GoFundMe Caliman73 Jan 2022 #9
A lot of us would be willing to help if you do a GoFundMe. It can really add up. kysrsoze Jan 2022 #15
My mom wrote a note telling all of us we would be way better off. She was wrong. LizBeth Jan 2022 #10
What's the problem with the car? mahatmakanejeeves Jan 2022 #11
(((HUGS))) vanlassie Jan 2022 #12
You can appeal the SS. Mz Pip Jan 2022 #13
I just got an attorney for my appeal XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #21
Yes and with a win, get backpay mzmolly Jan 2022 #33
Money is the smallest thing one can give, and sometimes it is everything. blm Jan 2022 #17
No one will be better off with you gone. You are needed. You must FIGHT for your benefits. LoisB Jan 2022 #19
You are not alone Ferryboat Jan 2022 #20
No one would be better off. We will help you. Please set up go fund me. onecaliberal Jan 2022 #22
+1 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2022 #23
Call 1--800-273-8255 and ask for help. sinkingfeeling Jan 2022 #24
It's not a useless life. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #25
A giant DU meetup XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #30
DU keeps me sane too. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #31
I wish I was home. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #40
My doctors here are great XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #42
Ahh... I love Long Beach! OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #45
It's such bullshit XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #46
Minnesota is a hard place for those not used to it iemanja Jan 2022 #51
If you return to NC let me know. JanMichael Jan 2022 #57
Have you reached out to the disability community for help with Social Security? thucythucy Jan 2022 #26
How did you get tricked into moving there? BlackSkimmer Jan 2022 #27
Because we were led to believe that it would be an 'all for one' scenario. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #41
If you've cared for people, made them smile, comforted them - you are a useful person electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #28
I have no idea if I have done any of that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #43
You are loved and needed cally Jan 2022 #29
Depression lies to you. Your mate is not better off without you. mzmolly Jan 2022 #32
OldBaldy1701E, you are not alone. crickets Jan 2022 #35
Stay with us Baldy budkin Jan 2022 #36
I'm in Minnesota and suffer from depression iemanja Jan 2022 #37
They could not help because of our housing situation. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #44
Did you already call them? iemanja Jan 2022 #48
I should add iemanja Jan 2022 #50
What that will 'trigger' is a SWAT team kicking in my door. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #62
Well, that's a different matter iemanja Jan 2022 #63
Don't do anything rash, Baldy. roamer65 Jan 2022 #38
UPDATE for those who might be interested. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #39
To your reply back to me 1) you're a DU member so you've been helpful to us DU'rs! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #47
Dear, dear Baldy. Does your husband know you are so close to ending it? femmedem Jan 2022 #49
I used to believe in that social contract as well. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #54
I believe femmedem has a good point... "am I not my brother's(& sister's) keeper?" electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #52
I forgot to add OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #53
I'm glad it helps a little to see so many people rooting for you and trying to help. femmedem Jan 2022 #55
I am glad you mentioned that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #64
please set up a gofundme Skittles Jan 2022 #56
What's the issue with the car? hamsterjill Jan 2022 #58
It was the starter. It failed. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #65
Hee hee. Like you, I am female and know a little about cars hamsterjill Jan 2022 #66
Thank you very much. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #68
I'm an idiot! hamsterjill Jan 2022 #69
Got it. 👍 Keep hanging in there OB! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #70
That sounds tricky with your car problem ... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #67
Please please stay with us berniesandersmittens Jan 2022 #59
And, who is paying for it? (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #61
I know what you're going through vercetti2021 Jan 2022 #60
Checking in on you, OB. Pleas give us a "hello". electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #71
Hello OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #72
Ty for popping in... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #73
How are you doing, OB? dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #74
Ahh... my favorite Little Feat song... OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #75
This message was self-deleted by its author dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #76
The only way I keep from killing myself is... I procrastinate my way out of it. TigressDem Feb 2022 #77
Thank you so much for your post. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #78
You are welcome. TigressDem Feb 2022 #79
It sounds as if you are doing way better than I am. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #80
It's easy to compare our insides to someone else's outsides and think they are doing better. TigressDem Feb 2022 #81
Thank you again. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #82
You need a better publicist. (wink) TigressDem Feb 2022 #83
Well, let me explain. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #84
I hear how hard it is. TigressDem Mar 2022 #85
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