Revisiting Boundaries to sort self out after job loss

[TigressDem]

15. How so?

And if you never really put it together this way, you can't call yourself pitiful.

ANYONE picking up a violin with no training is going to suck while learning, doesn't make them pitiful.


I think that is the same with mental health issues.


I've been around awhile and I'm having to go over this again because I lost my job and it was over something trivial that I should have let slide and kept in my own lane.

I've had around 30 years in 12 Step programs, so I should have known better. But I haven't been to meetings since COVID shutdowns started.

STILL, like riding a bike, it starts coming back to me and I reinforce what I know now with what I've learned before and pick up some new tools and see if I can do better going forward.

Where ever you are at in this moment in time, you can always make some sort of progress. Even if (along with the rest of us) perfection may be a long way off. What counts is that a person takes steps in the direction that gets them more clarity and joy.

Be nice to yourself.


Sometimes when I say something internally that sounds awful and shocking, I think to myself, "Would you say that to a friend? An acquaintance? Even an enemy?" I usually sheepishly answer, "NO" THEN WHY ARE YOU SAYING THIS TO YOURSELF?

SO I sometimes have to force myself to be as nice to me as I would to someone I meet on the street.

Whatever works, right?