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Sweeney

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45. I some times miss the obvious

Sun Dec 21, 2014, 04:28 PM

Dec 2014

looking for the not so obvious behind the obvious. There is not always a hidden meaning, and some times I am not the only sarcastic person in the world.

I don't know if I can stick here long enough to get to know anyone. Some of those I have come to know have been such impossible dinks I don't know how they can stand themselves. I am serious, and when I see anyone about to make the same stupid mistakes I made with my children I get very serious.

It is hard to get children to change even in a positive fashion while sending the message that they are less than perfect. Kids are kids. With -good enough- parenting most turn out ok. My first child was Jewish, a boy, and I could never get over the love and adoration lavished on him by his mother. Being more German than Irish, we were raised to think we were nobody special, and that is what we mostly became. My first wife was right, and I was wrong. Every child should be thought of as completely special and learn to grow into that specialness.

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I don’t want my wife to indoctrinate our two-year-old into religion [View all] cleanhippie Dec 2014 OP

Wait until she becomes his ex-wife. rug Dec 2014 #1

Sounds irreconcilable. Agschmid Dec 2014 #2

I can't figure out which of them is more justified in fleeing. rug Dec 2014 #3

ikr! Whouda thunkit...maybe people shud work these things out BEFORE they commit to marriage and kids... InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2014 #51

The response was skillfully written, in terms of understatement goldent Dec 2014 #17

The British are masters of understatement. rug Dec 2014 #20

There was actually better edhopper Dec 2014 #49

I wonder if they realized how far-reaching this discovery was. rug Dec 2014 #54

They absolutely knew they had discovered something huge edhopper Dec 2014 #55

I have a few friends edhopper Dec 2014 #4

"I think a lot of this has more to do with tradition and community than anything else." cleanhippie Dec 2014 #5

It could be they want them to catch literary references in classic books, and they want them to do MADem Dec 2014 #41

He's an atheist, she's a Christian, and this didn't come up 'til they had a child? Jim__ Dec 2014 #6

They definitely should improve their communication skills. cleanhippie Dec 2014 #7

They should go to a counselor. Jim__ Dec 2014 #9

That is quite common. nt. Warren Stupidity Dec 2014 #11

Introduce the kid to world religions. JoePhilly Dec 2014 #8

This^^^ PumpkinAle Dec 2014 #14

My wife and I struggled with the issue of religious rituals. Warren Stupidity Dec 2014 #10

I always laugh when I hear that not indoctrinating a child into religion is indoctrinating them cleanhippie Dec 2014 #15

Yep. bvf Dec 2014 #23

Indeed.. the thought that atheism is the default position continues to baffle... truebrit71 Dec 2014 #42

It sounds like a tough situation, but the husband can talk to the kid as well Bjorn Against Dec 2014 #12

It's going to be very hard to do Mariana Dec 2014 #24

Well, I guess he needs to just keep telling the kid Erich Bloodaxe BSN Dec 2014 #13

But Mommy might be inclined bvf Dec 2014 #21

It's authoritarianism where things go wrong, rarely religion itself. hunter Dec 2014 #16

The child in question is two years old. Mariana Dec 2014 #25

Our kids are 20+ years now, raised 100% Catholic. hunter Dec 2014 #43

I didn't indoctrinate my son with religion, but I didn't shield him from 1monster Dec 2014 #18

My wife and I pretty much raised our daughter (now 27) bvf Dec 2014 #22

I'm amazed their marriage lasted this long Prophet 451 Dec 2014 #19

I don't often find myself in agreement with your posts, but bvf Dec 2014 #28

Sure as hell should have resolved this BEFORE elleng Dec 2014 #26

Before getting Married HockeyMom Dec 2014 #27

Kids love to see their parents fight Sweeney Dec 2014 #31

Most of the time, the early religious indoctrination works. Mariana Dec 2014 #33

People teach what they believe to be true Sweeney Dec 2014 #36

She should submit to her husband and allow his descion to rule the family Leontius Dec 2014 #29

It depends on her particular flavor of Christianity, I suppose. Mariana Dec 2014 #32

I hope you are joking Sweeney Dec 2014 #35

Do you really not see it? n/t. bvf Dec 2014 #37

See what? Another excuse for conflict? Sweeney Dec 2014 #39

The question was in response to bvf Dec 2014 #44

I some times miss the obvious Sweeney Dec 2014 #45

It's been known for millennia that virgin human females do not give birth Fumesucker Dec 2014 #48

Sorry; but you got your Bible wrong. Sweeney Dec 2014 #50

The Bible is what people think it is Fumesucker Dec 2014 #52

Well Yes... Sweeney Dec 2014 #56

Here is your problem- Sweeney Dec 2014 #30

I am 61, and highly intelligent, nearly a genius. Sweeney Dec 2014 #34

I fear this poor 2 year old would be deluged with all kinds of books about religions muriel_volestrangler Dec 2014 #38

As much as one may love a child Sweeney Dec 2014 #40

In a love relationship Sweeney Dec 2014 #46

I think of marriage as a partnership, where both sides must work together. Agnosticsherbet Dec 2014 #47

I went through that twice with baptisms. EvilAL Dec 2014 #53