Imagine thinking the worst thing about rape is not the crime or the harm to victims

[seabeyond]

8. i think this post is particularly important in defining rape. i started a couple years ago or more

challenging the comment that rapists where sociopaths or whatever mental illness they want to describe them as. for a couple reasons. firstly, that is not a reality. they are the ordinary people, too often. ok. not playing the game. they are ordinary boys and men. they have been conditioned that it is their right to sex. as long as we do not define it as rape, it is not rape. though describing what happened is exactly rape. we have to get beyond the idea that it is an outlining group of our men and boys. that is not the reality. we cannot address a problem accurately if we lie to ourselves.

the stat that says 56% of men/boys would rape if they knew they could get away with it pretty much clears up that myth. the fact so many of us have been raped by the "ordinary" guy tells us it is not true that all rapists are sociopaths.

we need to address the correct issue. the defining of masculinity. privilege and entitlement. a culture that feeds rape. media that promotes rape. porn that glorifies rape.

second. men are married to the idea that rapists are sociopaths and they are not gonna let that go. cause then they have to address some really hard facts. maybe even have to do a little self reflecting on their own perceptions.

women are married to the idea because you figure it will lesson the odds of rape and an illusion of safety

good post