Sorry for the upcoming rambling. What can I do to give my money from a family trust to a charity instead of my [View all]

[Maraya1969]

instead of my greedy spiteful brother and his family. I have been trying to find out how he got to be the sole trustee and my mother, even though she had a stroke and has trouble speaking is hiding information from me. And at the same time he has set up his wife and daughter on the trust that he alone manages, [I am apparently no longer a trustee] and he is taking money out for himself because he says "It will stop problems after Mom dies....in other words the money she has given me from the trust over the years.......he thinks that money will be deducted and given straight to him as to "make things even"

I do have a disability but nothing that makes mer unable to handle money. I run a house by myself and I used to manage my Mom and Dad's apartment building for many years. When I left my mom continued to give me what I was being given while manager. Until hurricane Sandy demolished them and she only got a small amount for the property.


I am just so pissed off at the way I am being treated. It is not about the money but it might be if this little jack ass Presbeterian minister drains the whole thing. It is so much more about how I have just been cut out of the process and no one will tell me anything. Even at the bank the man said he could not tell me anything about the checking account that now has his wife an d daughter somehow attached to it and when I continued to ask questions he said something about how I just needed to LEAVE!

I de-brothered him several months ago after finally realizing that he ha treated me so poorly over the years because I am bi-sexual. I guess I lived in denial about that for a long time. I remembered asking my mother why she thought he disliked me and all she could think of was I missed his wedding about 30 years ago, (I was very ill with panic disorder and other things at the time.

I know I probably will hire an attorney and spend a bunch of money that I do not have a whole lot of but I also wanted to see if anyone has been in a similar situation or knows about marital and family trusts. The only one that can be changed by my mother is the marital trust. The other one can't. I have no clue how much is in them. And he will not send me any in formation, no statements. He told my mother again to wait until Feb when he comes down and he will talk then but she didn't know or doesn't care that he told me that same damn thing about the last time he was coming down, (paid for by, of courser the trust fund) and he gave me NO statements or anything regarding what I asked for].

I would rather leave money to organizations that do good in this world than to a man who preaches that people are born full of sin and it is justified to ban and shun the GLBT community and refuse to make flowers or a cake for a gay wedding.