Weird question but you have to look inside

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

(I hope I hope I hope this won't get locked, I am not trying to break the rules, I really am not!!!)

Do you think happily married hetero people can have bi tendencies and never act on them their entire life?

Just asking for a friend.

Thanks.

[fdr_hst_fan]

1. YES!

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

2. Yes

because sexuality isn't black and white, but a spectrum of gradations.

[22181]

3. Absolutely...

What are the rules?

[NMDemDist2]

4. yes n/t

[AlienGirl]

5. Yes!

Been there, done that.

[lazarus]

6. yup

In the same way that hetero people have hetero tendencies, but remain monogamous. And gay people can remain monogamous.

Bi or straight or gay doesn't mean you have sex with multiple partners, just that you're wired to be attracted to people of a certain type. But nothing about any of those sexual alignments means you can't be monogamous.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

9. Say there's a married couple

and they are VERY happy together but they BOTH have bi tendencies.

Say one of them acted on those tendencies in their youth and the other one didn't. The one who didn't wonders what it would have been like, but would not cheat on their spouse to find out. Can that go on indefinitely? I think yes, but I am currently involved in a debate about it with some people.

[lazarus]

11. the problem here

is that you're introducing bisexuality into the equation as if it changes anything.

What if one of the couple had multiple sex partners, while the other only had one or two, and wonders what it would be like to sleep with a lot of people (in serial). Or that one had participated in an orgy, and the other wondered.

What type of sexuality is involved doesn't matter; what matters is the dedication to the monogamy of the relation that both parties have. That's all.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

12. Thank you

I think I knew that, just not firing on all pistons today.

Or maybe I thought there was something mysteriously exotic about bisexuality that would cause an irresistable pull for the person who HADN'T experimented.

Thanks again!

[jjmalonejr]

7. Yes

In the same way that I can be happily married to my wife, find myself attracted to OTHER WOMEN, and not act on it.

[Misunderestimator]

10. Exactly.

[Robb]

8. No!

I mean yes! I'm just being contrarian. :P

Why the heck not? People repress tendencies in everything, often their entire lives.