What a terrible Valentine's Day!!!!!!

[Lady Freedom]

[wtmusic]

1. Awright, spill it LF

What happened...?

:nopity:

[coloradodem2005]

2. What happened?

I don't like V-Day in general, but what happened to you?

[prolesunited]

3. HUH?!?!?

I thought you were in love and happy yesterday (or the day before that). What changed so quickly?

[Lady Freedom]

4. .........

his friend came over due to the fact that his gal and him are though. Dave consoled his friend all night. They watched Officer and a gentleman and drank beers. I painted my nails, looked at a rose I paid for and ate a box of candy my parents bought me. We were suppose to go out! We were going to go dancing!!! This was our first Valentine's together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Worst Username Ever]

5. Ah, that sucks.

Was your boy consoling his friend or were they just hanging out because his friend was bored?

Sorry LF! I am not used to seeing you anywhere short of delusionally happy. Did you talk to your BF about it?

I hope he makes it up to you!

[Lady Freedom]

7. I guess he was

All the friend seem to talk about was that woman and how she tried to steel his creadit card and took money out of his wallet.....

It is just that it was going to be our night. He didn't even get me a card.

[Worst Username Ever]

10. In his mind, he probably thinks he did the right thing

and to a point, taking care of his friend, that shows that he is (probably) a good guy. But the appropriate thing would have been to meet with his friend TODAY, not yesterday. At the very most, maybe he could have stopped by his friend's house for 1/2 before your big night and do a little talking. You are right, that was your night, and your boy (and his friend, who should have known better) should have known that. And yes, he had all weekend to at least get you a card!!

You'll have to let us know how he makes it up to you. So sorry that you had such a lame Valentine's day! You are not overreacting darling. If I had done this, my fiance would have killed me.

[Lady Freedom]

27. I didn't yell at him

I just broke down and started crying. that's when he tolled me that his friend really needed him and so on. I tried not to say anything. I just don't know what the reasonable response to this is. I feel so abandoned but should I tell him off or hold my tong, or what?

[Worst Username Ever]

28. Are you the type to let yourself get pushed around?

It sounds like you are defering to him for some reason. I would definetely at least say that he has to make up for it. I hope he does, you seem like a sweetheart, you don't deserve that. But it is also possible that he really thought he was doing the right thing. If he has NEVER done anything like this before, don't let it get to you too much (but he still has to make up for V-day!). If this becomes a habit, I'd say you have some thinking to do...

Post #15 has a good response, too. Beer and a movie, on V-day, without a card. Hmmmm....

good luck darlin'!

[shawcomm]

6. Your first Valentine too??!!

You can tell him I called him a putz. If it were me, I'd tell my friend, "Sorry man. But, you know, it's Valentine's Day. Get the hell out of here."

:hug:

[Lady Freedom]

8. he says

that his friend need him and I should understand that. Maybe I am overreacting.... I don't know....I feel so bad!

[CTLawGuy]

9. he could have invited you over too

to salvage some semblance of V-Day, or postponed your date to today or so.

[Lady Freedom]

11. we live together,but...

with our work and school, we never have time together. We plan this all in advance, I even asked for the 15th. off so we could spend the night out.

[saracat]

12. You ARE NOT overeacting. He placed his friend's

needs over yours.And BTW aren't you his friend as well and if nothing else, he had a prior committment ot you. I think it is very odd that he would console his friend at the expense of his girlfriend's feelings on Valentine's Day. This is a special day that was degignated as an celebration of your relationship. This was not an ordinary day. You need to take a stand on this and let him know how you feel.

[Beaverhausen]

13. Do you think your boyfriend knew how important the day was to you?

sometimes guys are just a little dense that way. You really have to let them know...not hint but TELL THEM...that it is important to you to spend Valentines or whatever day together. Maybe next time he will get it.

sometimes friends don't get it either. that other guy was being pretty selfish, too.

[Lady Freedom]

14. I didn't think I had to...

He told me this Feb 1 and I got so excited. I bought a new outfit and teddy. I got him A pro Football,A box of candy ,a crush-o-gram, that movie shall we dance...ect.
I really thought he knew.

[shawcomm]

16. He's being an immature jerk...

He's trying to make you feel guilty for what he did wrong. My assessment of him is reinforced, he's a grade A putz. Being a girlfriend means you're one step above regular friend. He should have put you first; deep down he knows it, and maybe the friend was a good excuse for not wanting to take you out in the first place. Whatever his reasons, they don't hold water because he made a commitment to you first.

You're not overreacting one bit and there's nothing for you to feel bad about.

[Book Lover]

17. You need him as well

Don't feel guilty because he has trouble balancing his obligations. He should have told his friend that he had a previous date (YOU) and that they'd catch up later last night or today sometime.

[TrustingDog]

20. kick the bum out. No Excuse to miss your first valentines together...

as you said, even a Card would have meant something.

this is Not a good sign. btw, how is he with birthdays and other holidays in the past year? Has there been any agreement between the two of you not to do the 'corporate holiday cash grab' that most of these holidays really are?

keep those antennae up.

[Lady Freedom]

23. he has never blown me off before.

we have been together a year. Last year we could not be together because his father was ill and had to have him there and I had to say behind because of college was in full swing. But he sent me a card and letter. even my birthday has been special along with our anniversary.

[TrustingDog]

24. what do you know about his friend?

maybe there were some seeds of mistrust being planted about 'Evol Women' because he had a bad breakup?

just knee jerk reactions here, don't mean to make things out of nothing here I hope you understand.

[Lady Freedom]

25. not that much

They have been friends for about 5 years.

[Floogeldy]

21. Dump the loser!

[fishnfla]

15. Being brutally honest here

and speaking as a guy, I would have to say that this is not a good sign. At all. Beer and a movie with his friend? On Valentine's day? Not even a card?

I'm sorry, I know you feel bad enough, but something aint right here...

[bigwillq]

18. I had a great V-DAY!

Sorry to all of you who didn't have a good one.

[Lady Freedom]

19. at lest some one did

[Tyrone Slothrop]

22. I'm so sorry, Lady!

Your story made me really sad. I had a pretty lame Valentine's Day too (first one in a couple of years without one), and I think your boyfriend is exceptionally lame on several counts.

Last night I was really wishing that I had someone to give a card to...

He's a fool.

[hfojvt]

26. do you know the song?

Buy Deena Carter's greatest hits, and play this song alot:

"I bought these new heels, did my nails
had my hair done just right
I thought this new dress was a sure bet
for romance tonight
well it's perfectly clear, between the TV and beer
I won't get so much as a kiss
as I head for the door, I turn around to be sure
did I shave my legs for this?"

If nothing else, he deserves to be torture with country music.

[derby378]

29. My heart hurts for you, LF

But yeah, I'm inclined to agree that he should have told his friend that you were his priority that night. You even bought a new teddy - lots of women wouldn't be caught dead in one.

A polite heart-to-heart talk may be in order. Give him a chance to make it up to you. It'll give you a chance to see if this relationship is going anywhere.

[Lady Freedom]

30. copy

edit due to error of sumit key
LF

[Lady Freedom]

31. Thank you

[Richard Steele]

32. 100% behind you, LadyFreedom!

Your guy was a real IDIOT for what he did!

I am as big a jerk as any Boyfriend, but even I know better than that!

I have been sick as a dog for 3 days, but I managed to drag my butt to the computer and put together a crude photoshop V-Day card to e-mail my sweetie at work.
Then I drank a bunch of cough syrup so I could 'keep it together' long enough for dinner at a nice resturant. Not exactly a "magical evening", but she was happy I MADE AN EFFORT!

After all the prep you put into the date, your BF should have told his friend, "That sucks. Call me TOMORROW."
He screwed up BIGTIME; I hope he realizes it.

[GalleryGod]

35. Good Answer: That Sucks. Call me tomorrow!

:loveya: love it!

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34. a kick due to another post

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=2644716&mesg_id=2644716


Thought that with the post about the greedy, don't know how it is, dumb female that I would kick this up to show how dumb the " He so stupid! He got me a diamond bracelet for V-Day really is!!!!!!

[HEyHEY]

36. What you need is to get laid!

My buddy is running an escort service if you want.