I'm going to be single forever cause I'm a big pussy

[HEyHEY]

I don't get it, a few years ago I had no problems whith confidence and women, now, for some reason I can't seem to do it anymore (no not IT). But it's awful, it's like whenever I should get in there I have an automatic wimp reflex that kicks in. I don't even wanna explain what brought this on, I'm gonna go self loathe now....

[Alenne]

1. I see what your problem is

Most girls like big dicks.

[HEyHEY]

2. yeah, I know

But it isn't just them not being interested, it's me not being able to get something going, I fumble through like a fucking drunk, opening a can of corn.

[jenk]

4. i'm like that

especially around a pretty girl that I really like, when it comes to making small talk I'm a stammering fool. But once I get going things get easier and the anxiety goes away.

[Alenne]

9. relax

If the girl you are talking to hasn't walked away she probably doesn't think you are a dork. Most girls won't even talk to you unless they are interested.

Don't think too hard about it.

[HEyHEY]

13. well, I needs me some courage boost!

Was, I saw a girl that is my friend's (rest his soul) Sister at the mall, We talked in the store for a bit and I have always had a thing for her, she's amazing. Anyway, I was super uncomfortable, I even felt myself sweeting. Then I said, "Which way are you going?" She said she was actually going to get something to eat. It was a total invite, but I was too chicken to go for that! What happen to the HEyHEY in Highschool and early 20s that woulda been eating dinner with a hell of a nice girl instead of sittin gon DU bitching about being a wimp??!!!

[noiretextatique]

25. i can relate...lack of confidence

at some point...you just have to go for it. if you don't believe your own hype, no one else will. good luck.

--from someone who completely understands you're at...and for whom life has recently gotten much better :thumbsup:

[SpiralHawk]

48. HeyHey - give her a call tomorrow and invite her to a movie

It's not too late. Just do it.

You both share something that had a profound impact in your lives: the death of her brother and your good buddy. Seeing her again could have brought all those feelings back. Tell her. She'll understand, and feel closer to you. And if not, then maybe you don't want to take her for a whirl on the dance floor anyway.

"Work like you don't need the money; love like you've never been hurt before; and dance like nobody's watching" - Satchel Paige

[HEyHEY]

54. Unfortunatley for me

I don't have her number, but she has just moved back here, and we used to hang out in the saem social circle, so hopefully I'll see her again.

[HEyHEY]

5. wait

You weren't making fun of my pecker were ya?

[SpiralHawk]

64. The ladies have to transcend that, Alenne

Because they are wearing me out. A fella has to get a little rest every now and then.

[JVS]

3. Don't worry

The first step to confidence is just not giving a fuck.

[blm]

6. Hey...don't give up...

I always fall for nice, intelligent guys and gals. There are plenty of us out there. My husband is one of the sweetest, gentlest, nicest guys you can imagine, but most people would take a look at me and expect a completely different match up. Screw that. Be nice and the rewards will come.

[mmm]

14. WHAT? You fall for guys AND gals?

Seems to me you left out FARM ANIMALS.
What is wrong with farm animals?

At any rate, I think it is well that he is choosing wisely.
Sounds like a period of positive transition.
I think he should only date super-models who are perfect TENS.
(None of this skinny-winny stuff!!!!!!!)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

7. I don't know why..I think you are funny as hell

If you're this funny in person, I would bet it would be easier than you think.

BTW, my girlfriends are mostly fashion models and most of them like big men with average dicks so it isn't a religion or anything.

[HEyHEY]

8. Thanks for the compliment

Truly, one thing I have always been able to do is make women laugh. I guess it's cause I grew up with sisters. But, I figure also I was single by choice for so long that it messed my game up!

On edit: that last sentence is a grammar nightmare

[ForrestGump]

22. Fashion models who like big men?

Have I inadvertently died and gone to Heaven? There aren't 72 of them, by any chance, are there?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

42. Well, I don't have 72 but I do have around a dozen so

12 down, 60 to go! :D

[ForrestGump]

52. A dozen? Hmm. Yep. I can handle that.

Just send 'em over, please.

*gulp*

Of course I can't handle them, but what a way to go. :D

[GOPisEvil]

60. Any that you can't handle...just send my way...

...well...send one, anyway. That's all I need. :-)

[ForrestGump]

77. Just one?

Are you cutting back?

Actually, I'd be happy with just the rumor of one.

[GOPisEvil]

34. Define this for me...

BTW, my girlfriends are mostly fashion models and most of them like big men with average dicks so it isn't a religion or anything.

It might make my decision on where to go on vacation a little easier. ;-)

[ForrestGump]

43. Average is about 12 inches, isn't it?

It was, according to Penthouse, anyway.

[GOPisEvil]

46. Ha! If that's average, then...

...(message deleted to spare the author embarassment)

[ForrestGump]

53. Oh, STOP BOASTING!

Besides, I've already seen the statue of David.....

[GOPisEvil]

Ummm...it was reattached!!!

Promise!

[ForrestGump]

61. Yu mean, there's a GOPisEvil BobbitHead?

That's pretty strange.....

[GOPisEvil]

63. Not me...the statue of me....

:-) The real me is whole, and quite intact. Fully functional too - last time I checked....I know...TMI...

[ForrestGump]

78. There you go, boasting again

Next thing you'll say that you have a hard time keeping your foot out of her mouth.....

:o

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

44. You know

Gosh..I can't think of a tactful way to say it...nevermind. :D and besides..you should just take a vaction out here or Skittles will KICK YOUR ASS FOR ME!!!

[GOPisEvil]

51. We'll see...

...I haven't been to the LA area in a while. I miss it...

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

10. Sounds like my problem with guys.

Join the club. :eyes:

[GOPisEvil]

11. I have the same problem...

...online, I'm fine...but I struggle just walking up to someone I don't know. If I'm introduced, I'm ok...but approaching a stranger? :scared:

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

15. I know exactly what you mean!

I'm the same way.

[leftist_rebel1569]

24. same thing with me...

I really have trouble talking to strangers in real life. I'm really shy...can't help it. but, On the internet, it's a different story...

[leftist_rebel1569]

12. welcome to my world...

I always screw it up somewhere. I haven't had a real girlfriend ever in my life. But, i'm 15, so...

[HEyHEY]

16. Ahh

At 15 you are bound to make mistkes, just remember to be a gentleman

[leftist_rebel1569]

33. yeah, I try

but i'll screw up somewhere along the way. Oh well, it'll come sometime...

[KCDem]

19. have you read the new HP?

If so, go back and read page 459... exchange between Hermione and Ron. That passage is so RIGHT ON!

[HEyHEY]

23. never read it..I'll check it out though

[leftist_rebel1569]

26. I just might do that sometime

I haven't read any of those books in a while, though...

[LoZoccolo]

17. I read a book that says...

...make it a goal to say "hi" to six strange women a day. Could be someone you're passing by in the aisle at Walgreen's or something. And don't get down if they get creeped out - just imagine it might not be cuz of you but something about them and go on to the next one. You'll overcome your shyness quite a bit.

[KCDem]

18. hey, hey hey,

(snicker)

Women aren't that difficult. I mean, yeah, we're complex beyond all words... but, if you're having a problem talking, be honest about it. We think that stuff is kinda cute. We realize that most men are clueless re. relating to women. And, we like a guy (seriously) who doesn't come across as arrogant, but, instead, shows his "pussy", if you must, side. (just don't use that word... we don't like it! :hi: )

Grab her hand, say "you know, I kinda suck at this, so please help out", and believe me, she'll think that's the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to her!

(unless she's a heartless bitch... but, I'm hoping you don't go for the Coulter-type)

[HEyHEY]

21. oops

I never use the p-word in front of girls or the c-word (which I hate anyway)

But I think the P-word is funny, cause when I was younger I never made the connection and I just though it was a funny word for wimp!
But hey, that's good advice, thanks

[KCDem]

56. hey, I'm serious about the advice!

It's a mixture between "grow a pair" and "don't be a dick". Very fine line, but not hard to navigate if you're seriously interested in a woman. Good luck! Remember--every man on this list who is engaged/married/serious has been there. And every woman on this list who is has been with a guy who was that way. It's normal. Breathe, decompress.

[KG]

20. hold out till your in your forties - then you won't even care.

:)

[ForrestGump]

27. Of course, there is always the possibility that you'll be better off

single forever. It's an alternate worth bearing in mind, anyway.

[GOPisEvil]

29. It's starting to look like that for yours truly...

...in reality, I don't mind. I'm either going to do it right, or not do it at all...the whole marriage thing, I mean. ;-)

[HEyHEY]

32. I agree

I wouldn't want to rush in to something like that

[ForrestGump]

36. I've got an idea - it'll be great

I, having been married and decided that is wasn't a great idea, can move in with you and we can share an apartment. You'll mess it up all the time and wear baseball caps and I'll wear a suit and an apron and nag you about what a slob you are. Or, if you prefer, you can wear the apron and I'll wear the baseball cap and drape pizzas everywhere. We'll be polar opposites. it'll be great. And we can have people over to play poker.

It's high-concept, man.....

[GOPisEvil]

37. Can I come over and play poker?

:bounce:

[HEyHEY]

39. do ya cheat?

[GOPisEvil]

41. Never!

O8)

I only cheat at Spades and Hearts. ;-)

[ForrestGump]

47. Never! But I do lie.....

Or maybe I don't.......

[ForrestGump]

45. Dude, I was replying to you. Jeez, Oscar, you're already being Odd

:-)

[GOPisEvil]

49. Damn...I got to thinking of NSMA's friends, and well...

...loss of blood...brain malfunction...you know how it goes...

[ForrestGump]

55. exactly know I

brain my working either isn't

dozen fashion a models

my oh feeling am faint I

[ForrestGump]

76. No! leave 'er alone! You lecherous man, you.

[HEyHEY]

38. And I'm a freelance journalist

So we'd have the whole odd-couple thing pretty well nailed

[ForrestGump]

58. If we could sell the rights as a 'reality' show, we'd have it made

Can you say 'groupies'? :D

[HEyHEY]

62. And catered food!

mmmmmmmm :-)

[HEyHEY]

31. Gump the more I read your posts.....

The more I want to drink a bottle of whiskey, and listen to Johnny Cash albums with you!

Yeah the single forever thing was a philosophy a few years back, now I'm feeling the pinch, I guess being a hermit isn't as natural as I'd like. As my friend said one time "We ain't programmed that way."

[ForrestGump]

40. Hey, man, you should hear my Johnny Cash imitation...

Yep, I understand those yearnings and all of that. Of course, having Been There And Done That the prospect of a bit of unrestrained freedom is great - scary, but necessary. The good thing about these days is that you don't necessarily have to be married, though, to enjoy a legally-sancytioned long-term relationship. Whether marriage or not, I hope that you and the perfect woman for you cross paths and draw them parallel to each other - the flipside of freedom is loneliness, and too much of that has a way of getting us down, at least at certain times.

I'm still somehow convinced that there's someone out there - at least one person - who is just right for each of us. I don't know if I buy the whole 'soul mate' thing, but I think that's close enough a description. Whatever, there are billions of people on this planet......you've just got to get the right one close to you. And you, and she, have to simultaneously recognize that you are perfect for each other. Don't despair, though, at this apparent statistical improbability - stranger things happen every day.

Hey, I've seen those Canadian babes, eh.......mm mm mm.......

[supernova]

65. Forrest, you are a very interesting person.

Anybody who likes Johnny Cash is OK by me. ;-)

[ForrestGump]

79. Johnny Cash! Check out this for an imitation:

"Hello, my name's Johnny Cash"

Boom-chick-a boom-chick-a.....

Great stuff.

[Darth_Kitten]

28. Big pussy?

Not a little pussy? :evilgrin: sorry....

[HEyHEY]

30. hehe

That mad one is the best!

[Darth_Kitten]

35. Mad kitten has the right attitude....

we could all learn from mad kitten.

:) Don't be too hard on yourself...people are annoying....

[supernova]

50. Well, I'm not the most social woman either

meeting someone new is always sweaty palm time for me since I'm naturally very sensitive! :D

I get just as tongue-tied around men as they do around me. :silly:
Mostly I have to just be with people awhile, doing some activity together, then I can have the chance to relax and open up.

I like the idea of greeting six people every day. I did this several years ago (though, I limited it to 3 at first) to get control of a bout of social anxiety. Worked too.

[Ivory_Tower]

57. I prefer the term "bachelor"

instead of "big pussy". :)

However, someone pointed out to me last week that it's actually "confirmed bachelor". I'm still waiting for my confirmation ceremony.

[HEyHEY]

59. lol now that was funny

[Astarho]

66. I know how you feel

I feel tormented that I see beautiful women all the time, and can't get the courage to talk to them. I think it's making me bitter and even more anti-social (which I didn't think was possible).

Today, after work, I was waiting for a ride and the store was full of beautiful women and could not talk to any of them (although after working all day in the AZ sun I was not really presentable). Then there was the two smooching co-workers just to rub it in. :mad:

The last girl I actually told I like (and I thought she was interested in me too) suddenly ran in the other direction. :shrug:

And yes, unfortunately a lot of women do seem to go for big dicks (and I'm NOT talking about genitalia). :mad:

[Tigermoose]

70. Advice.

1. Work on improving yourself - physically, mentally, and spiritually.

2. Once somewhat satisfied with #1, learn to notice the uniqueness of the individual, and then start up a conversation based upon that uniqueness or interest you know they are interested in. And your in like Flynn.

[Exultant Democracy]

67. Is this the right place to interject...

I am so into this girl I just met :-)We met 2 weeks ago, she was sitting there reading “A Clockwork Orange” I decided that that was pretty sexy, and for the first time in my life I walked up to a hot stranger.
Well I have no clue how I got through the first conversation, but we totally hit it off, she even ended up asking me out first which was very nice of her. As of now things are still going great and we are having a blast together.
I’m not gloating, well maybe a little bit, but the real point is that people are meeting people every day and even though it is sooo scary it pays off big time once you put yourself out there.

edit: can I come over and play poker too, I can be the wacky guy from downstairs.

[Tigermoose]

69. The power of conversation pieces.

To meet people, you should always have unique props like books, hats, jewelry, etc. that will stimulate conversation.

To compliment a woman, find something unique about her clothing/jewelrey/books that shows a bit of her soul/personality. That is a compliment people remember, because it seems to verify their individuality and shows you noticed them for who they are.

[HEyHEY]

71. okay

Any guy who finds a clockwok orange sexy is wacky enough in my books! Come on over, bring $20

[Tigermoose]

68. Come..you talk to Tigermoose.

I have two older sisters, no brothers. I consider myself an intellectual. Sound familiar?

Well, the bane of us intellectual younger brothers is that we are cursed with being able to see multiple perspectives in many situations, especially when it comes to women. I am so envious of unsophisticated clods who simply act on impulse.

1st advice: Alcohol helps suppress the intellect :)

2nd advice: Develop and build your own respect for yourself and your abilities. Develop and establish moral and social codes to adhere to, and by doing this you will gain confidence in all areas of life. Eventually, dating women will seem relatively simplistic in the greater scheme of things.

Having sisters, you are no doubt more accomplished in conversing casually with women once you get to know them. Now, you need to understand what it takes to be a man -- which oftentimes takes the ability to make rash judments and bullheadedly stick by them :) But seriously, you have to learn that if a woman is interested in you, you just need to start talking and hope for the best. 9/10 says that you'll be just fine. They probably won't actually remember what you said, but that you seemed interested in them. And once you build yourself up, mentally, physically, and spiritually -- they will be drawn to you.

And remember the 3 Rs of listening. Reflect, rephrase, and respond. Women love to talk. But you have to learn to love to listen to them.

[HEyHEY]

72. GOod thoughts

Yeah I always do better when schwacked, anyway, thanks for the advice. You were pretty bang on with the sister analogy. It really does help you know how to converse, but I also think that I may be intimidated by women cause I grew up with the two biggest bitches West of Kansas City! But we get along great now, anyway time for bed take er easy TM

[Tigermoose]

74. I'm originally from KC too.

currently doing the prodigal son thing, but ready to return home.

[Chicagonian]

73. Big Pussy?

I thought Big Pussy was sleeping with the fishes...

[Az]

75. Passions

Stop looking for someone. You are likely not spending enough time developing yourself. Develop your passions. Find some hobbies. Go out and do them. Along the way you will meet people. These people will share your passions and one of them may even want to share your life.

If your focus is finding someone else then you will eventually lose anything of interest that once defined you. You need dynamics that make you stand out and define you rather than just a laundry list of desires for someone else.

So get out there and develop some passions. Something that gives meaning to your life. Something that others may partake in. This is how to be complete.