babies daddies

[StopTheMorans]

My girlfriend works as a nurse, and one of her coworkers (while appearing to be exasperated) said to her the last week as she was leaving "don't ever have a baby's daddy." So, did she mean:

don't ever have a baby?

only have a baby if by artificial insemination or some other means wherein the father will assuredly not be present for the upbringing of the child?

or don't ever have a man who will father a child, and then be a "baby's daddy"? if so, please give your definition of "baby's daddy".

discuss...

[billyskank]

1. Maybe she just garbled her words and it doesn't mean what it says?

It happens.

[StopTheMorans]

2. not acceptable

F :thumbsdown:

[billyskank]

3. Well, taken at face value it doesn't seem to make much sense

at all. :shrug:

[StopTheMorans]

4. that's what I'm saying, but i'm hoping that, for comedic purposes,

there is more to it...

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. i always thought baby-daddy was a made-up expression

though once liontamer and i heard it in spoken in real life...and we were both shocked for a while...

[StopTheMorans]

9. i know it's a real expression because the drummer in my last band

always used to say (in all seriousness) "I have to go see my baby's mama after practice tonight."

[lakemonster11]

45. Saying "my baby's mama" makes sense.

"Baby-mama" is weirder.

[crispini]

10. No, I've heard it IRL.

People really do say it.

[billyskank]

12. In Britain "babyfather" is (so I hear) in usage in black culture

to mean a philanderer who has sired many children, but displays no interest in them.

My source for this information is a BBC drama entitled "Babyfather." :)

[AngryAmish]

37. Baby-momma drama

Flip side of the coin.

[Deep13]

46. It is a cutesy euphemism.

People figure it sounds better than, "the father of my bastard child."
:shrug:

[terrya]

6. I think she meant "don't have sexual relations with a father"

So, unless there's something you're not telling her OR us, the girlfriend will heed that advice. :-)

:hi: Hope you had a nice Christmas, STM. :-)

[StopTheMorans]

14. there's nothing i'm not telling her or you

:D hey Terry :hi: i did indeed have a great Christmas, tho, from memory, it was a bit blurry ;) how was yours?

[terrya]

16. Ah. One of THOSE Christmases.

Glad you had a great time. Mine was very nice...Santa was good to me this year. I must have been a good boy. :-)

:hi:

[StopTheMorans]

20. i'm sure that you were, Terry, and I'm glad to hear that

:D

[crispini]

7. Some combo of 2 and 3, I think.

"My baby's daddy" = the father of my child, but relationship otherwise unspecified. i.e. not necessarily committed to you at all.

I get the feeling from this context that this guy may be a player who runs around on his many girlfriends, bringing heartache to all, and satisfaction to none.

[StopTheMorans]

15. so you think that this woman was essentially saying "get yourself

a quality gentlemanfriend"?

[crispini]

19. Exactly.

Get a man who'll marry you and take some responsibility. A baby-daddy is essentially a sperm donor, I believe.

[xmas74]

8. Baby daddy.

Someone who makes a baby and only shows up to cause grief to the family. He doesn't stay around to raise the child and then bitches when DCS garnishes his wages for child support. He bitches about the way the child is being raised but doesn't want to actually get his own hands dirty. He doesn't show up for visits. He wants to know what the child support was spent on "to the last penny". He yells at you because you're raising his child as a Methodist when he's not one. He screams about the Girl Scouts teaching girls to become "pushy broads" but doesn't offer to pay for other activities. And it just gets worse from there.
Don't get me started-I have a baby daddy. They suck.

[StopTheMorans]

13. so do you think that this woman meant to say

"only get a man who will not be a baby's daddy", "do not have children", or "avoid men altogether"?

[SOteric]

17. My take, I suspect she was saying

either breed only with men who will be responsible co-parents or don't breed at all.

[DS1]

24. K-Fed resents that!

:grr:

:rofl:

(this guy)

[xmas74]

18. At times it can mean avoid them all together.

Most of the time it means "buyer beware". Make sure you know this person before you really get involved.
This asshole will have a place in my life until I die. It's hard to explain-women like me know that there are good men out there. We've been dealt a bad hand and have to live w/ it.
Ever get into a fight w/ a woman and think "WTF was I thinking, getting involved w/ women at all! I should have stayed alone!"
It's the holiday season, babydaddy probably didn't send the child support or come to visit or even buy a present. She was probably speaking out of sheer frustration, knowing that she would be going home to a house of disappointed children while asshole is out partying.

[hfojvt]

21. Way back in 1986 I felt compelled to get on my boss's case

He said "I have to babysit tonight?"
I said "whose kids?"
"Mine"
"THAT's not babysitting!!!!"

But he was a married guy saying that.

[redqueen]

22. Jesus Christ.

:nuke:

[xmas74]

30. I would have jumped his ass.

Then again, I'm not one for worrying about what my supervisors think of me. Probably was a good idea to hold your tongue.

[MountainLaurel]

32. Christ, that drives my insane

It's not babysitting if they're your own children, it's parenting. And if you think it's babysitting, obviously you're not doing enough of it.

[redqueen]

23. This is correct.

*sigh*

[xmas74]

31. You know the situation quite well too

I take it?
Sucks, doesn't it.

[redqueen]

39. No, not personally.

But my sister works in a neonatal ICU unit, and the stories she could tell... :(

[xmas74]

40. I live w/ it every day.

I think his lifestyle might kill him in a few more years. At least we'll get his SS and maybe some life insurance.

[redqueen]

41. .

:pals:

[xmas74]

42. Thank you.

:pals:

[henslee]

11. babys daddys are new snack treats from nabisco.

[Orangepeel]

25. I think she meant, "don't be a single parent"

A woman's baby's daddy (or a man's baby's mama) is someone with whom one has a relationship, but only through the baby. That is, her relationship with the man isn't one of girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband, it is mother of my child/father of my child.

[Schema Thing]

26. I think she meant "don't ever [i]have[/i] a babies daddy

ie: don't fuck any man who has fathered children.

Why? Hey, I'm sure she has her reasons. I just hope her advice doesn't catch on! B-)

[Tikki]

27. If I remember correctly...in the 1980's...

...the 'babies' were called trophies. Then that must have made the dads...players.




Tikki

[TallahasseeGrannie]

28. Watch Maury

You'll figure it out.

[politicat]

29. Don't have a kid with a guy you're not willing to have a relationship with

"My baby's daddy" usually refers to the former boyfriend who is the biological father of a child and with whom a woman must maintain some sort of relationship, for the sake of the child.

It can be a very frustrating relationship, so when wishing someone to not have a "baby's daddy," she's wishing that someone not be in that relationship.

[Deep13]

33. Don't get knocked up.

She's bemoaning the apparently widespread practice of unwed people having children.

[LisaL]

35. Then she would say "don't have a baby with a daddy", don't

you think?

[Deep13]

38. "Baby's daddy" is slang for an unmarried father.

I also hear "Baby's momma." It is said by one unmarried parent in reference to the other. Instead of "my wife," it would be "my baby's momma."

[LisaL]

34. Baby's daddy would be her boyfriend or ex-boyfriend.

She is having a bad relationship with him, and expressed it a pretty strange way.

[LaurenG]

36. Make him marry you before you have kids

That way he is a husband and not just a "baby daddy". That is what I get anyway.

[bleedingheart]

43. my brother always says..."That's my baby's Daddy"...when he sees

Hines Ward play football for the Steelers...

Note...my brother has a huge crush on him...

[fortyfeetunder]

44. Don't date a single parent

I thought a baby daddy / baby mama was slang for a single parent, referenced by a person who conceived with that individual, and were not legally associated with each other via marriage or common law.

I also thought would be different from a divorced couple (an ex-spouse)