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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:38 PM Original message |
Poll question: Should I get divorced? |
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undeterred
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:42 PM Original message |
Get marriage counseling |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:45 PM Response to Original message |
5. I think that's a good idea. |
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Thtwudbeme
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:46 PM Response to Reply #5 |
7. You can't not afford it; call the county health services |
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GrpCaptMandrake
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Thu Dec-29-05 04:26 AM Response to Original message |
117. I agree! |
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bleedingheart
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
1. funny story about a log... |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:44 PM Response to Reply #1 |
4. LOL |
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bleedingheart
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:47 PM Response to Reply #4 |
8. on a serious note...I do recommend marriage counseling |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:56 PM Response to Reply #8 |
21. LOL |
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Thtwudbeme
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
2. You poor things! "Counseling" is the only answer any DUer |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:46 PM Response to Reply #2 |
6. I will look for someone sliding scale... |
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Thtwudbeme
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:48 PM Response to Reply #6 |
9. Shoot! You are so ahead of me! |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:55 PM Response to Reply #9 |
20. Oh wow. |
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Thtwudbeme
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:59 PM Response to Reply #20 |
27. There's your answer right there |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:03 PM Response to Reply #27 |
32. I sure wish you could babysit too! |
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LynneSin
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:25 PM Response to Reply #2 |
63. You're just upset cause you're not in that Poly Pod thingie |
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skygazer
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:43 PM Response to Original message |
3. You've got a lot of issues there |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:50 PM Response to Reply #3 |
12. Thanks skygazer. |
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proud2BlibKansan
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
10. The most stressful time in my marriage and in my life |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:51 PM Response to Reply #10 |
14. Thanks! (nt) |
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proud2BlibKansan
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:58 PM Response to Reply #14 |
24. I have been married 30 years, most of them happy |
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Shell Beau
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:49 PM Response to Original message |
11. You love him! That is reason enough to try to make it work. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:52 PM Response to Reply #11 |
15. Thanks Shell Beau. |
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progmom
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:50 PM Response to Original message |
13. i can only offer this |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:57 PM Response to Reply #13 |
22. THAT helps! |
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crispini
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:52 PM Response to Original message |
16. It's clear from your post that you BOTH are making compromises. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:58 PM Response to Reply #16 |
23. that's exactly right! (nt) |
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redqueen
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:53 PM Original message |
Sweet chocolate-coated Christ this all sounds so familiar. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:58 PM Response to Original message |
26. Well, at least I know other people have gotten through it. |
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Bucky
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:53 PM Response to Original message |
17. You forgot one option: "Stay married, but start robbing banks for income" |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:59 PM Response to Reply #17 |
28. Good idea... |
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Baclava
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:53 PM Response to Original message |
18. Dump him |
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Bucky
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:55 PM Response to Reply #18 |
19. Boo. Hiss. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:00 PM Response to Reply #18 |
29. LOL (nt) |
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SOteric
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Wed Dec-28-05 02:58 PM Response to Original message |
25. Nah, Divorce shouldn't be the first choice, |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:01 PM Response to Reply #25 |
30. You can be in the pod! |
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hfojvt
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:03 PM Response to Original message |
31. He's put himself in competition with your son? |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:06 PM Response to Reply #31 |
35. It's not about the housework... |
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hfojvt
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:30 PM Response to Reply #35 |
45. why does his ego need to be saved? |
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tjdee
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:13 PM Response to Reply #31 |
40. Umm.... |
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MountainLaurel
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:31 PM Response to Reply #40 |
47. Ditto |
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hfojvt
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:45 PM Response to Reply #40 |
53. unhappiness is relative |
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LaraMN
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:04 PM Response to Original message |
33. I think anyone who has had children has asked this question at some point. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:07 PM Response to Reply #33 |
36. Thanks. |
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radwriter0555
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:28 AM Response to Reply #36 |
110. Rb, here's the thing, you two are COMPLETELY NORMAL. Your family is |
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tjdee
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:06 PM Response to Original message |
34. You still love him--I'd hang in for that anyway. But. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:08 PM Response to Reply #34 |
38. Thanks! |
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skygazer
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:30 PM Response to Reply #34 |
80. Not personally knowing the people involved, I can't say this with absolute |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:41 PM Response to Reply #80 |
93. I think you really understnd. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:41 PM Response to Reply #80 |
94. I think you really understnd. |
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Ron Mexico
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:08 PM Response to Original message |
37. An alternative to running to the first counselor in the Yellow Pages would |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:11 PM Response to Reply #37 |
39. He may budge. |
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Ron Mexico
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:24 PM Response to Reply #39 |
42. If he doesn't, then |
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Tikki
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:23 PM Response to Original message |
41. Rene, no matter if you get.... |
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Schema Thing
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:27 PM Response to Original message |
43. er... unless he's an asshole |
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merh
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:28 PM Response to Original message |
44. No advice. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:39 PM Response to Reply #44 |
51. TY (nt) |
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Maine-ah
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:30 PM Response to Original message |
46. on top of counseling, I would suggest |
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Lydia Leftcoast
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:33 PM Response to Original message |
48. You need a neutral third party to act as referee, someone who is not |
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Maddy McCall
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:36 PM Response to Original message |
49. I can't offer you advice, but I can offer you an ear, if you need one. |
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La Lioness Priyanka
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:36 PM Response to Original message |
50. counselling and if you can afford it an occasional baby sitter |
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m_welby
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:44 PM Response to Original message |
52. this sounds pretty typical to me. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:48 PM Response to Reply #52 |
55. Awesome post. |
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m_welby
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:10 PM Response to Reply #55 |
61. glad you feel better. |
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mopinko
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:46 PM Response to Original message |
54. sounds like you 2 have no trust. |
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GOPisEvil
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:51 PM Response to Original message |
56. Good luck with working everything out. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:56 PM Response to Reply #56 |
58. Thanks. |
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maveric
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Wed Dec-28-05 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
57. Sometimes you have to look at the convenience factor. Sad as that may be. |
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
59. Boy does this sound familiar |
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LynneSin
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:09 PM Response to Original message |
60. I was going to vote for the 2nd option til I realized I was part.... |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:38 PM Response to Reply #60 |
66. I want to get a job at Bard and move to New Palz. |
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Gormy Cuss
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:46 PM Response to Reply #66 |
68. Work at Bard and travel from New Paltz? |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:20 PM Response to Reply #68 |
77. I didn't think it was that far. |
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Gormy Cuss
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:41 PM Response to Reply #77 |
92. Sorry. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:43 PM Response to Reply #92 |
95. How about saugratise? |
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Gormy Cuss
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Wed Dec-28-05 10:19 PM Response to Reply #95 |
108. Saugerties is close on the west side of the river |
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Thu Dec-29-05 03:32 PM Response to Reply #108 |
120. Tivoli is a great area. |
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LynneSin
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:57 PM Response to Reply #66 |
70. I know sweetie!!! |
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:23 PM Response to Original message |
62. Marriage counselling costs less than a divorce |
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
64. babies are hell on a marriage |
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JuneInJax
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:28 PM Response to Original message |
65. I echo the call for counseling |
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:43 PM Response to Original message |
67. It gets better |
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Bucky
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Wed Dec-28-05 04:48 PM Response to Original message |
69. Another reason not to divorce... You'd have to change your sigfile image |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:21 PM Response to Reply #69 |
78. You're right. |
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Wed Dec-28-05 05:18 PM Response to Original message |
71. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I totally know how you feel |
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Wed Dec-28-05 05:58 PM Response to Original message |
72. I'm sorry |
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B Calm
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:03 PM Response to Original message |
73. Just the thought that you are actually thinking of taking the baby away |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:23 PM Response to Reply #73 |
79. IF I were going to make it on my own... |
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B Calm
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:32 PM Response to Reply #79 |
81. How would you feel if he took the baby away from you? |
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:01 PM Response to Reply #81 |
83. It's not your place to judge her situation |
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B Calm
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:05 PM Response to Reply #83 |
84. Its not your place to judge me! I was raised by one parent!! |
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nini
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:10 PM Response to Reply #84 |
85. uh so was I.... My mom raised 6 of us by herself after a divorce |
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B Calm
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:17 PM Response to Reply #85 |
87. My DAD got custody of three children in 1959. All I'm saying |
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nini
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:22 PM Response to Reply #87 |
88. I agree with that ... but it came off way different unfortunately |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:47 PM Response to Reply #83 |
97. Thanks. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:45 PM Response to Reply #81 |
96. If he were states away from his family... |
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nini
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:05 PM Response to Original message |
74. Not until you both try everything to make it work |
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:08 PM Response to Original message |
75. Try and make it work. |
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:19 PM Response to Original message |
76. Children DO change everything |
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Wed Dec-28-05 06:53 PM Response to Original message |
82. do whatever it takes to get him to go to counseling too |
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:14 PM Response to Original message |
86. I've been listening to several people with recent divorces |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:48 PM Response to Reply #86 |
98. Thanks so much. (nt) |
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4_Legs_Good
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Wed Dec-28-05 07:33 PM Response to Original message |
89. How old is the baby? |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:51 PM Response to Reply #89 |
99. My husband is still in 3 bands... |
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Thu Dec-29-05 12:07 PM Response to Reply #99 |
118. Ugh! |
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GoddessOfGuinness
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:04 PM Response to Original message |
90. Congratulations! |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:54 PM Response to Reply #90 |
100. Thanks so much!! |
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leftofthedial
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:14 PM Response to Original message |
91. get counseling |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:55 PM Response to Reply #91 |
101. Thanks, hon. (nt) |
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leftofthedial
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Wed Dec-28-05 09:43 PM Response to Reply #101 |
105. good luck! |
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2bfree
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Wed Dec-28-05 08:55 PM Response to Original message |
102. Sit down and talk to your husband about this and not us. |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 09:01 PM Response to Reply #102 |
103. Thanks, I will when he gets hime. |
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ScreamingMeemie
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Wed Dec-28-05 09:32 PM Response to Original message |
104. Such a difficult thing to answer...All I can give you is this... |
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LSdemocrat
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Wed Dec-28-05 09:53 PM Response to Original message |
106. Out of curiosity, what makes you think a divorce would solve anything? |
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rbnyc
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Wed Dec-28-05 10:04 PM Response to Reply #106 |
107. My instinct is to take flight. |
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nothingshocksmeanymore
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:10 AM Response to Reply #107 |
109. But think of yourself, too..and in thinking of yourself please recall |
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:30 AM Response to Original message |
111. I dunno about that housework log. |
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:40 AM Response to Original message |
112. *sigh* Yes, having a baby does change everything. |
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nothingshocksmeanymore
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:47 AM Response to Reply #112 |
113. One of my favorite quotes comes to mind |
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cssmall
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:49 AM Response to Reply #113 |
114. Nah, he's not. |
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rbnyc
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Thu Dec-29-05 04:36 PM Response to Reply #112 |
122. Thanks for sharing that. |
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Thu Dec-29-05 02:55 AM Response to Original message |
115. To quote you; "Ok, I do love my husband, " |
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GrpCaptMandrake
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Thu Dec-29-05 03:46 AM Response to Original message |
116. Kinda looks to me like a classic case |
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Thu Dec-29-05 12:19 PM Response to Original message |
119. Quit complaining and be an adult. |
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rbnyc
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Thu Dec-29-05 04:30 PM Response to Reply #119 |
121. The thing is... |
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