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A smile, good eye contact, leavening the process with some wit, focusing on areas that you have in common - there are A LOT of ways to "flirt" or "seduce" without for a moment becoming unprofessional. Think of the behavior you would use if it were a guy you respect, and maybe smile more than you might with a guy.
Professional: Totally clean jokes or witty remarks about your common interests/research topics, showing genuine interest in what she's saying, and responding to what she's saying so that she can tell you are paying attention and thinking about it, smiling, good eye-to-eye contact w/o staring, laughing at her humorous remarks, nodding when you agree with what she's saying.
Unprofessional: Avoid any comments about her appearance or clothing (unless she's wearing an extremely unusual or striking scarf or piece of jewelry that screams for recognition "Wow, you're the 2nd person this week I've met who was wearing Georg Jensen/Paloma Picasso/Hermes, etc)", any eye contact BELOW eye level, anything REMOTELY intimate or even vaguely suggestive, NO double-entendres, no touching outside the inital handshake, and no space-invading.
Also, general tip for ALL men -- don't crush a woman's hand at handshake time. It might be something you guys do to each other, but I've got a slight touch of arthritis, and I've literally been brought to tears by a salesman's handshake. We don't need limpfishy shakes, but no need to be sure bones crunch together, either...
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