You have a best friend from High School you have lost touch with?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

Tell us about them.
I'm depressed I never get to see mine. Her name was Mary. She was funny as hell, and I've known her since we were born (Our birthdays are a month apart). We were literally friends our whole life until we got out of high school. I think about her a lot and I really miss her.
Duckie

[KoKo]

1. Check out one of the online sites like "Classmates.com" or "Reunions.com"

and see if she is listed. Those sites are hokey and commercial, but if she's looking for you and on the internet, she might be there. Otherwise she might not want to remember you..and it would be "painful" for you both to try to reunite.

Good Luck!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

4. I just wanted to hear about other people's friends...

I know she's on Classmates, but I can't pay for her email address...And I don't want to. LOL I'd much rather give my money to other things.
Duckie

[mlawson]

5. You have to pay, right??

Cheapskate here. It's been 36 yars since I graduated HS, and I no longer know anyone from there. Most of them, that is fine, but there are 2 or 3...

[HEyHEY]

2. Not really

A couple people who were good friends that I drifted outta touch with, wouldn't mind seeing them but you know!

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

3. Just had my 35th reunion

which I didn't attend. Never had any friends in high school, and didn't care to see them again.

[mlawson]

7. That is pretty much me, as well. But

there are many ways of revenge. I suspect that I look younger than anyone else from HS would, now. And I am not the nerd they thought I was, either!! Yeah, you assholes, come see me, now!!

:evilgrin:

[ScreamingMeemie]

6. Teresa Bercel nee Nystrom. We kept in touch fairly regularly.

Her husband is in the Air Force. For some reason last year she stopped sending letters...and all the letters I sent were returned saying her husband had been sent somewhere else. She had always notified me of prior moves. I really miss her and worry about her. :(

[KoKo]

8. Okay....I will tell you from experience, that nostalgia can either bring

you to some wonderful reunion with your heart's desire from years ago. (rare, but I know some stories that folks "late in life" have been reunited and they were widows or widowers and they were successful).

My experience is that if you didn't like them then, and didn't "hang out" with them they don't want to know you now. If you had a "special relationship with this person and are looking for her now...just beware the downside." This "special person" might have been "special" then, but had other allegiencies that were obvious and that's why it didn't work out back then.

Holiday times get to us like this...looking for something way back..but be careful...been there and done that...While I have some acquaintances who've had success it's been at "College Reunions" and not back from High School.

Be careful, forewarned, and don't expect much..but if you need to do it...DO IT! You will have sympathy from us if it doesn't work out the way you hope. Just beware. Good Luck, again!

[mlawson]

9. I have never been to a reunion, but I have heard that

if they were bullies then, or were loud aggressive jocks then, they still are now, essentially. I know this is a blanket statement, but I wonder how true it is???

[KoKo]

12. My puny experience, is that it's true. Hubbies is that it's true also.

Only two experiences here, but have tales of others. Sad, isn't it.

But, somewhere out there their maybe more hopeful stories. Some folks do make miraculous changes. I like to believe that...that for some it's different. Doesn't mean one shouldn't try, but just beware..it's not like the movies or Hallmark....much as we would hope.

[populistmom]

10. Mine moved to Florida last year

We still talk, but not as much as I'd like. She's actually somewhat of a conservative, but she always tells me I'm smarter, so I can live with some of her beliefs (I think I've made a BIG impact over the years too). One of the few women I know who I have managed to get along with for years and years because I can be completely myself with even when I'm in a more cynical and abrasive frame of mind.

[mdmc]

11. yeah...

my best friend in high school. We are really close and I was in his wedding party ten years after graduation. His father is the man that got me interested in politics. I have his contact information and he only lives three hours from me, but i never see him or call or email him. It is so strange and sad; I lost touch with him. I could easily contact him, but I don't.

[Fixated]

13. As a high schooler this is depressing

If I ever lose touch with Corinne or Maggie I'll be kicking myself.

[KoKo]

14. Don't worry through life you'll find others...but they won't ever be the

same...they won't. But, there will be others and after awhile you'll know you couldn't go back....

Although some folks remain friends all their life if they never move and never are far apart or some life experience doesn't crash in and break the bond.

Whatever....don't worry about it..Really! :-)'s

[mdmc]

16. its the hardest truth

nothing stays the same. Everything changes. But we are all in control of our lives, and we can keep in touch with whom we choose. Don't worry, but remember, nothing stays the same. If you can accept this, you'll be okay. And remember, be nice! :~)

[VelmaD]

18. Don't be - you don't have to lose touch

I still talk to the woman who has been my best friend since 7th grade nearly every day and I'm 33 now. We stayed best friends after high school when I went off to college and she moved away with her hubby. We stayed best friends while we were seperated by the miles and then got lucky enough to move back close to each other.

If you work at it you can stay friends. She isn't the only one of my HS friends I'm still close to. I just talked to my first serious boyfriend from HS a couple of nights ago. I talk about once a month with a guy I've known since 4th grade. If both parties make the effort you can have lifelong friends. :-)

[cally]

15. I re-connected with my HS best friend via classmates

We sent some emails back and forth and it slowly ended. I'm glad I re-connected. I don't have much desire to connect with any of my other hs friends.

[KoKo]

17. Cally why did it end after you "rediscovered each other?"

Was it that there was less in common after you were excited to find each other and it just sort of died because of that, or why?

[cally]

21. Yes. It was great re-connecting

but we don't have much in common now. I'm glad I made the effort and I still value this friendship, but neither of us wants to spend much time on the friendship. I would jump at the chance to see her when she visits, but we don't have all that much to talk about after we found out what all our family and friends are doing now. :shrug:

[kayleybeth]

19. You should really look her up!

I never did lose touch with my best friend. We have not lived anywhere near each other for over 20 years but we usually visit each other a couple of times a year, and we talk on the phone all the time. She named her daughter after me and I named one of my daughters after her. She is really the only person from my distant past (besides blood relatives) that I have kept up with. We've always been like sisters. I don't know what I'd do without her :-)

[m-jean03]

20. He spoke arabic brilliantly

and dreamed of visiting the mideast someday. After spending a year studying in yemen he apparently took up with the u.s. army as a translator, and no one has heard from him since. his family moved out of town, so I have no idea where he's at. Wasn't my best friend but a good one. Only wish I'd have been a better one. Hope he's OK. Seemed too sensitive to go to a war. Hope he's got a desk job or something. Heard a rumor he's working in Guantanamo Bay.

Anyone here know where Saluman Colver is at these days?

[Blue-Jay]

22. There are 3 or 4 that I'm still in touch with.

The rest of those assholes can jump in a lake for all I care.

[sleipnir]

23. Yeah, It's kinda depressing, so always try to keep in touch

I had a good friend that I kinda kept in touch with after highschool, saw him once in Indiana by a freak chance when I was going to college there. I always meant to see him again before I left Indiana, never really got around to calling him. Thought I'd catch him at a 5 or 10 year reunion. Two months ago he got killed in Iraq...

So I guess, don't ever let a chance go by to see an old friend because you might not ever be able to again...I still wish I had called, but, well...I still have that piece of paper w/his number in my wallet, as a reminder that tomorrow isn't a certain thing.

[Bill of Rights]

24. My best friend is a hotshot in the SEC

She is one of the directors. I think there are about 15 of them. They are second only to the top guy. She is in charge of Market Regulation. After losing contact for 15 years I looked her up on the internet. The name, resume and picture is the same. I'd love to get in contact with her again. Tried emailing, but there was no response.

[SheilaT]

25. A couple of years ago

I got back in touch with my best friend from junior high school. We're both now 55, to tell you how long ago that was.

The internet is a marvelous tool. I assumed she'd probably married and changed her name, so I googled her brother's name -- it was sufficiently unique that I felt confident anyone with that name had to be him. And sure enough, he's a professor at a midwestern university so I sent him an email asking him if he remembered me and could he put me in touch with his sister. Within hours I heard back from him, sent her an email, and we've remained in touch ever since, including a couple of visits.

I've located several other old friends via the internet. It's especially helpful if their name isn't the most common one out there.