Is this normal?

[From The Ashes]

...I'm not sure how to even explain this. Earlier this evening, my son mentioned that he had talk to his father (the EX) about sending a couple of important pieces of mail that he's gotten. He said that when he called the EX was camping with his GF, my younger son and his family. In a flash, I was absolutely furious. In the 21 years we were married I could count on the fingers of one hand, the number of times that he took us ANYWHERE. I mean he goes to BINGO for Pete's sake!

Why am I obsessing over this after 10 months??? Am I losing my mind? :wtf:

[mcctatas]

1. It is normal....

give yourself a break, it will take more than 10 months to get over 21 years no matter how much of an asshole the ex was :hi:

[From The Ashes]

6. I take it you've met my ex?

:rofl: asshole, indeed! :D

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear From The Ashes...

Of course it's normal, sweetie...

You're comparing the relationship you had all those years with what he's giving his new GF, and you feel cheated...

Hang in there...

I know it's hard...REALLY hard.

You're not losing your mind...

But life sucks sometimes...

You are better off without him!

:hug:

[From The Ashes]

7. I know I'm better off...

...but damn! I thought I was past all this shit. x(

[SPKrazy]

3. I think it is always normal to to wonder about total changes

in someone's behavior

mebbe he has a brain tumor or something? :shrug:


:hug: :hug:

:hi:

[From The Ashes]

8. I doubt it...

obviously she just deserves it and I didn't. Good thing I'm not bitter...

[SPKrazy]

12. oh now that's nonsense

he's got a tumor- oh wait, that's his HEAD up his ass!

[papapi]

4. You need to get out more . . . and forget that jerk.

Go to a day at the spa or take walks in the park with a friend. Go see something live on stage. Listen to some classical music (Bach does wonders for me).

[From The Ashes]

9. Thanks papapi...

:hi:

Wow small world! I was looking at your profile. Are you really from Altoona? I have some family that lives there.

[papapi]

14. Long story . . . I'll make it brief . . .

Have lived in Virginia all my life. I'm at least eighth generation. Grew up in the Allegheny Mts., Alleghany County, VA. Have lived in Clifton Forge, Roanoke, Centerville, Roanoke, Charlottesville - in that order. Have worked at Monticello and University of VA while in C'ville. Became disabled about three years ago. Lost my home of seventeen years waiting for SS disability (two and a half years). When I sold it, I started looking for housing I could afford to buy outright with the equity I got out of my house. Went to the HUD site. Searched the entire country. Found an old 1902 Victorian for sale in Altoona, PA. Bought it. Moving there this month. Can't wait. Fell in love with the area first time I visited. Altoona is also in the Allegheny Mts. Altoona was a booming railroad town just like the one I grew up in. It's gonna be my last move. I'm 54, disabled and have always wanted to restore an old mansion of the Victorian era. Hope I'm up to the challenge. Here's a picture of the house. (please forgive fragmented sentences, writing in thoughts.)

[ScreamingMeemie]

5. I would imagine that it is.

My parents were married for almost 40 years when they split up. I never tell her what he is up to because I know it makes her angry. It's not obsessing...not at all. :hug:

[From The Ashes]

10. I think I suprised my son...

...with the vehemence of my response. He understood after I explained, but I wish I had gotten a picture of that look. :) :hug:

[FloridaJudy]

11. Nah. He's just suffering the usual Middle Aged Jerk syndrome.

Some princes just turn into toads when they fear age is catching up with them. Maybe he's trying to relive boyscout camp. My ex never bought me anything, but I've spotted him shopping for his younger sweeties. Jeez, ceramic cats? He hated both cats and tchotchkes. I hope he's now forced to live with a houseful of them!

[ldr65]

13. Perfectly normal

To think, why did he never do this fun stuff when we were together? But rest assured that old habits die hard and when the new wears off the new relationship he will once again become the same person you could not stand.