What does one do at a Bachlors party?

[quakerboy]

Hep me please. I dunno what to plan here.

[jobycom]

1. Bachls?

Don't know. Didn't have one. Never been my style.

[quakerboy]

2. Me either

When I got married, the initial thought was to have a party together. But then we realized that since there were no bridesmaids, no groomsmen and we were actively discouraging and disallowing planning, that kinda went against the theme.

[jobycom]

3. Sounds like mine.

We had two friends who insisted on witnessing the ceremony. Afterwards the four of us went to Burger King, then she and I went on a honeymoon. Our thought was "We want to live our lives for ourselves, so what would bringing in a ton of friends and relatives say?" We moved two states over to get away from most of them, anyway. :)

[quakerboy]

16. We did a church wedding

Quite a few people came, surprisingly. I suspect mostly out of disbelief that either one of us would ever marry anyone. We had no pastor. We made everyone else bring food. Enforced casual dress. It was a thing of confusing beauty. We already considered ourselves married, so the ceremony was more to get the families and friends together and make us all legal at the same time.

[Captain Hilts]

31. Most of my friends haven't had one either. nt

[LeftyMom]

4. Hookers and/or blow.

[quakerboy]

5. Christian. One of the groomsmen

Doesn't even watch R rated Movies.

[jobycom]

21. I used to work nights at a luxury hotel.

We hosted swingers parties, a statewide queen's ball, the Republic of Texas militia, a high school senior's event, and I forget what else. NONE of them were as bad as the Christian group. They called more escort services, had more noise complaints, more indications of drugs and alcohol, and left without paying more than any other group, often carrying their Bibles and saying Praise God and Amen. These were Baptists, btw. The Catholics were actually the best behaved group.

[quakerboy]

52. This is true enough

I dont know what these people do behind closed doors, away from each other and me. But at least one is the holier than thou type who even if he had a nightly furry orgies that were broadcast on live TV would never let a dirty hippie like me know about it.

[alphafemale]

22. Yikes.

How old is poor repressed fella?

He needs some serious intervention.

[quakerboy]

53. Perhaps

But in the approximately 12 years I have known him, Ive never met anyone able to do it. He is a big man with a very thick skull. I don't know, but would guess he is at least 30.

[MajorChode]

23. All the more reason to go with the traditional option

How often does a buddy get married?

Everything in moderation (including moderation).

[quakerboy]

6. also, my wife would kill me

Hookers and blow are expensive.

[MajorChode]

24. Actually they are cheap compared to the costs of marriage

Don't ask me how I know this.

[quakerboy]

51. Ah, but consider the combined costs of both...

Not a pretty picture, if you follow me here.

[mcctatas]

7. in this economy?

more like watching a $9.99 rental of other people doing hookers and blow

[quakerboy]

10. That would be lame

And also out of the picture, given that one participant refuses to watch even R rated movies.

I did not think this would be so difficult. I was almost hoping to do a stereotypical stripper drinking party, mainly because I have never experienced one myself, until I saw the list of groomsmen. I think the groom might have been willing to try it on his own, but not with this group.

[petronius]

8. I think you should talk to the groom, and get a sense of what he wants

For some guys the drunken stripper-palooza is great, for others not so much...

[quakerboy]

9. Drunken stripperpalooza

seems to be out, as virtually everyone there will be from a sheltered christian world, one to the point of refusing to watch even R rated movies. Ever. And to the best of my knowledge none of us are big drinkers


I talked to him. He doesn't know what he wants. Its all in my hands. I would prefer to come up with something slightly more original than dinner at Red Robin. But I seem to have a mental block on this.

[petronius]

11. Some sort of group outing? A river rafting trip, or a catered BBQ where you

all play ultimate frisbee, or bungee jumping, or something?

[quakerboy]

17. We have only an evening, so it will likely be dark

The last groomsmans flight arrives at 7:30 pm. It has been decreed that he will be rested and arrive at the rehearsal at 3 PM the following day. The rehersal to include a catered meal in a park, and some frisbee.

Another groomsman said he has some ideas. But I don't know if this was just bluff or not. Its challenging because we range a spectrum of physical ability and interests. Anyway, I appreciate the ideas. They will knock around in my brain and maybe trigger something.

[petronius]

19. Late-night laser show at the planetarium?

Good luck!

[quakerboy]

54. That might actually be an option...

Thank you!

[PaddyBlueEyes]

14. Dude

That is exactly the crew that needs drunken stripperpalooza...

[quakerboy]

18. Probably

However, this is exactly the crew that would walk in, and walk right back out as fast as possible, then hold it against me and sour the wedding itself. Which I do NOT want to do to my best friend.

[PaddyBlueEyes]

20. Hmmmm

Got any professional athletics in the area to view....?

[quakerboy]

55. Gaaa

Everyone else would probably dig it. And I would hate it. Worth considering anyone. Perhaps I will take one for the team.

[Captain Hilts]

32. And most don't do anything like that anyway. nt

[PaddyBlueEyes]

12. This is seriously not complicated

Alot depends on the Groom to be....

[mcctatas]

13. OFFS!

A LOT~ jackass

[PaddyBlueEyes]

15. still a grammar nazi

I see...Bite me! :P

[MajorChode]

25. Less so than grammar flamers

Cheers!

[seabeyond]

26. after reading the posts.... my husband went to one a year or two ago... buddies gathered

at a house. foods set out and booze (most older, and not big drinkers and computer dudes so...)

they hung around chatting. that was it. is there a house with pool table and other toys. a pool hall?

just get your buddies together to hang with and chat with the guy, help to make time go by so he isnt thinking a lot about the next day, alone.

[Shell Beau]

27. My husband and his friends took the Amtrak to New Orleans.

Bourban Street, strip clubs, beer and liquor... Fun stuff.


Nevermind. Guess that won't work for someone who doesn't watch R movies.

A camping trip maybe?

[MilesColtrane]

28. on edit: a prayer circle?

Damn, they're making it hard on you!

Even Jesus drank and hanged with prostitutes.

[quakerboy]

57. Naw, he was nailed with theves, but as far as I know never hung

Its a challenge. Its particularly hard because there is not a single common interest in the whole group, as far as I can tell, other than none of us are big drinkers. We have a slow giant basketball player. We have a throwing coach. We have a long distance runner. We have a motorcyclist. and we have a computer nerd.

I think even a prayer circle is out. I suspect mr no R would be horrified by my prayers, and very probably visa versa.

[MilesColtrane]

65. This is unconventional, and some of the guys might not go for it, but...

if the goal is a little good old male bonding, building something together is always good.

Now, it's no party, but maybe you could all find a Habit for Humanity house to work on for the afternoon, then reward yourselves with a nice, sit down meal afterward.

[dawg]

29. Watch a PG-13 movie ...

that shows some boobs! I think there are a few. :)

Seriously, though, just take him out for dinner with a group of the guys. That's what my friends did. I was, and am, much like you and your buddies. I would've freaked out if someone had thrown me a stereotypical bachelor party. Just get the group of guys together and have fun.

[quakerboy]

58. 5th element

When he asked me to be best man, I agreed, thinking to myself... what the hell now. I don't even know where to start finding strippers(for a private event) or blow.

Someone said planatarium lazer show above. That actually sounds a bit tempting, at least as part of the evening. Although pink floyd or whatever they are showing might be a bit risque for some folks...

[Captain Hilts]

30. Some go on a fishing trip or hike. Some have none at all. Some have a dinner party

with their friends of all sexes.

It's up to you.

[Kali]

33. go to a sports bar type of place for dinner and drinks

arrange a singing telegram (or pg rated stripogram) for a bit of memory/entertainment. Take some pictures or have them taken.

Or some type of restaurant where the staff will present a sparkler encrusted cupcake with song or "production" a la a birthday, only have it be wedding/bachelor party themed.

Hire a magician or fire eater. (this can be really cool - I went to a graduation party where they hired a guy to do "freak show" stuff - fire eating, glass eating, sword swollowing etc)

Go out for tattoos?

[Mopar151]

34. That's the ticket!

The other suggestion I had was goofy (mini) golf, go karts, or the like. I was at one with a strip-o-gram in drag, R-rated insults - busted a gut laughing!

BTW - you gotta be careful with these things, esp. the night before the ceremony. My old roommie had his 4 days before, had to be made up for the ceremony so's the damage would'nt show in the wedding pics.

[quakerboy]

60. Heh

Actually... that's pops something into my mind. Perhaps a nice middle eastern restaurant with a belly dancer would be memorable and yet still within what this crew could accept.

I will have to look into the magician or fire eater idea. That might be workable.

I really appreciate these ideas.

[Kali]

62. belly dancer is a good idea too

maybe the bridal party could get mendhi tattoos on their hands and or feet to kind of coincide.

[GreenPartyVoter]

35. My then-12 yo BIL threw a Christian bachelor's party involving pizza and a movie. Bowling, pool, or

Wii games might also be fun depending on how many people are coming. (Hubby's was very small. Just a handful of friends.)

Basically, just do whatever a teen church youth group would do. :)

[Flipper999]

36. I have to agree

Just set up a party with the stuff they like. If they like PG rated entertainment, then that's what they should get. It's not going to be any fun if the guy who likes seeing non-R rated movies flips out because he saw a boob.

The stripper thing is way overrated anyway, in my opinion. You basically end up paying some women a bunch of money to make you feel sexually frustrated.

[OmahaBlueDog]

67. ...yes, but that's not exactly the point

The point is that you are getting to go out and chase lewd women with your guy friends....theoretically for the last time.

[Lance_Boyle]

37. Pfffft. These days you need at least a Masters party to get anywhere in life... n/t

[MiddleFingerMom]

38. Send ME the money for the hookers and blow and...

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[Lucian]

39. Strip club, lots of alcohol, and some blow.

:thumbsup:

[Missy Vixen]

40. My husband and a bunch of his buddies went out for the evening

It was most likely strippers and alcohol. They all went golfing the morning of our wedding, too. My "bachelorette party" consisted of nachos and margaritas with the matron of honor the day before the wedding.

Your buddy? Stupid question: Why would anyone want to have a "bachelor party" who's evidently afraid of anything beyond PG content, when bachelor parties typically represent debauchery in all its forms?

Reservations for dinner will work. You could also try something like putt-putt golf.

[seabeyond]

41. if someone doesnt like it, or not into it, does that make them "afraid"? nt

[Missy Vixen]

44. That was a poor choice of words on my part

If the groom is so concerned about any remotely adult content, perhaps he needs to suggest a celebration that would be acceptable.

Bachelor parties typically celebrate excess and debauchery. IMHO, YMMV.

[seabeyond]

48. from this thread

i am thinking maybe the excessive debauchery is the perceived idea of a bachelor party but not so much a given. seems like an awfully lot of guys got married without one. my hubby didn't have one. the one he has been to since being married wasn't. and appears a lot of the guys on this thread go to bachelor parties that aren't aout debauchery but more a celebration with friends to a new chapter in life.

my question to you is why there was no debauchery in your bachlorette party. i am a true believer of tit for tat. he gets debauchery, can damn well bet i am gonna get me some too. lol

[Missy Vixen]

49. That's a good question

>my question to you is why there was no debauchery in your bachlorette party.<

I'm not exactly a debauchery kind of a chick. My sister wanted to go to one of the Chippendale's-type bars; I wasn't into it. If other women find that fun, more power to 'em, but truthfully, I've just never been all that interested. Maybe I'm weird. ;-) Plus, wouldn't it be more exciting if the gorgeous guy in question was dancing just for you, not for every other woman in a crowded bar?

My husband quit going to bachelor parties when the guys involved got so drunk they must have been bordering on alcohol poisoning. Plus, we're all older now. Nothing's worth that hangover.

[seabeyond]

50. "Nothing's worth that hangover."

lol, i hear you there. isnt that the truth

"I'm not exactly a debauchery kind of a chick. My sister wanted to go to one of the Chippendale's-type bars; I wasn't into it. If other women find that fun, more power to 'em, but truthfully, I've just never been all that interested. Maybe I'm weird. Plus, wouldn't it be more exciting if the gorgeous guy in question was dancing just for you, not for every other woman in a crowded bar?"


no, it really doesnt do it for me either. i went to one chippendale and thought it stupid and embarrassed with the way other women were behaving, lol. not my thing

i know hubby did strip clubs a couple times when he was young and didnt do it for him either. by the time we got married he hadnt been to a strip club for years. no interest.

i think the same may hold true for many men.

this is one of those all men... that isnt necessarily true of all men.

[quakerboy]

61. the bachlor in question could probably be

persuaded to enjoy a night of relative debauch. If it were just me and him. Granted, between the two of us, debauch would probably not really be all that debauched. But with the greater group, it becomes harder. And he had to fill in extra persons to make the number of people match.

[Fire Walk With Me]

42. Deep, lengthy discussions of how dirty each of their apartments are.

And prizes for the worst.

Seriesly. That's all that goes on at a bachelor party. Nothing to worry about or to raise issues of jealousy.

[Missy Vixen]

47. I'd like to attend that party

I ran to defend a city council seat a few years ago. I lost. I knew I was going to lose. Shortly after the election, I gave a "loser" party. The only people allowed to attend had lost something. Of course, everyone had to write down what they'd lost (anonymously,) and we read them aloud after a few drinks.

It was one of the more enjoyable parties I've ever been to. ;-)

[chromotone]

43. Try to talk the bachelor into staying a bachelor.

Doesn't always work...:(

[Jokerman]

45. I went to a Cubs game with my friends.

We got hotel rooms in Chicago, watched the Cubs play and then spent the evening partying on Rush & Division.

A few years ago when my friend wanted a more "traditional" bachelor party I rented a big passenger van and was the designated driver for a tour of local strip clubs. As designated driver I got free admission into the clubs and free soft drinks. Staying sober as my friends got increasingly drunk and stupid with the strippers was an interesting experience.

[quakerboy]

63. see, now that would be kinda fun

The latter. Not a big cubs fan. Unfortunately, I would be the most likely to drink, which is sayin something if you knew me. I know at least one and possibly more of the people are teatotalers.

Then again, after an evening discussing economics and politics with a RW'r or three, I might just want to get drunk for the first time in my life.

[Beer Snob-50]

46. my friends had mine in one of their back yards

bbq, beer.

for one of my friends, i had it at a local brewpub. everyone pitched in for the guest of honors food and drink. we closed the place down and had a grand old time.

[khawkings09]

56. get seriously wasted

[Taverner]

59. Strippers + Limo + Alcohol = Bachelor Party

Any questions?

[Lasher]

68. Right. If you have something else don't call it a bachelor party, so as to avoid confusion.

If you're having a golf outing, call it a golf outing.

[Touchdown]

64. It depends. Are you waiting for the cake, or are you inside it right now?

We must know.

[OmahaBlueDog]

66. One interesting idea a friend of a friend of mine did -- a roast

They took the G-T-B to a restaurant, rented a banquet room, got his male friends & co-workers together, had drinks, and told many jokes and stories at the G-T-Bs expense.

OTOH, my bachelor party involved a lot of booze, nude strippers, and oil wrestling. My best man thoughtfully sent a picture of me and the wrestler to my wife.