I am way too possessive about my research ideas. not sure why i am telling you guys this

[La Lioness Priyanka]

but its true. i am exceedingly possessive.

[Inchworm]

1. There are no new ideas

:rofl:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. there are. i come up with them all the time. but i hate sharing and letting

other get credit for it as well. i am sure i will learn in time, to be better in this regard. but as of now, i pretty much suck at it

[Inchworm]

3. A hat?

I think a hat is important ;)

And wind.

[ThomCat]

4. Good careers are based on good research ideas.

But don't burn out trying to do everything. Keep the ideas you know you'll be able to pursue, and share the ideas you know you won't.

I know you must have more ideas that you could pursue in decades, and the ones you choose to pursue earlier will probably lead you down new paths than the ones you didn't choose to pursue earlier.

:hug:

Wherever it goes, I hope it goes well. :)

[DeadEyeDyck]

5. are there news ideas or do we just take old ones, mash them

up until they look like they are ours? Hmmmm.

[Kali]

6. what do you mean?

give some examples:evilgrin:

[provis99]

7. You should be. You stole all my good ideas!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. lol

[UndertheOcean]

8. like what ?

[snagglepuss]

10. Isn't acknowlegding a problem the first step in AA? Kudos.

However you may be simply realistic rather than possessive. In my first longterm relationship, I never felt jealous, I thought that I simply wasn't the jealous type however in subsequent relationship I could become extremely jealous. It was shocking. Then I realized that the reason I was not jealous in my first relationship was that my boyfriend didn't play games, he never made subtle comments that engendered doubt in me about his feelings for me. That was seldom the case with other guys who seemed to prefer to provoke jealousy.

I mention this because I think work places/schools can be the same. Some managers/teachers make it their mission to ackownledge an individuals effort and recognize performance, so people feel confortable about sharing because their effort is acknnowledged. If one isn't in that sort of environment, sharing info can be detrimental because other people, superiors included will steal ideas and take credit.

[RandomThoughts]

11. Jelousy is a choice, and is fear based.

It happens when some information, and fear of something, are added together to create a perceived action outside of perception.

Then again I get pretty good reads on people, so know most of the time when they are lying, but I don't always say anything, since nobody is perfect. However I have never cheated in a relationship, that is something I can choose to do and choose to control. I do not think I choose what other people do, but if I was jealous that would be wanting to control someone.

I could chose to not be in the relationship, but I would not choose to try and make them be something they are not, however each situation would be different, since everyone has flaws and they could learn there way out of some of those choices of behavior.


If your Jealous, then think of why you are in the relationship in the first place, and if you don't want to be in one with less trust, don't be in the relationship, or stay trying to help them, as you say, by sharing love. Shrug, maybe it depends on each person.

Thats how I think on it.



And if people steal ideas like you say, then they will answer for that. People have stolen credit from me many times, although I really try not to, and acknowledge many of the great things done by many people, and the people that help them. Then again I really don't need credit, that is not that important.

When you think on people stealing from you,

"Our hearts are in the trim."

"They shall have no ransom, but these my joints, and these which I leave them, will yield them little."

Henry the Fifth Speech
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vMfCv5J0g8

Or to explain it, a day will come when only real victories will be remembered and felt honorable, for everyone will someday learn the truth, so find something worthy to do, for that will be what you will keep, and those are treasures that can not be taken.

[xchrom]

12. I think you have to be in academia. Nt

[Lucian]

13. Hell, I am too.

I have a few great ideas for grad school studies, and people try to get them out of me. They need to get their own damn ideas.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

22. i am doing a project with someone, and while discussing the project

i said "my idea" instead of "our idea" which upset her. but it was my fucking idea. still, i should have said "our". argh

[siligut]

14. I am because the people who don't have ideas are the most devious.

They have to steal, if they are ambitious but lacking in creativity or original thinking. I had one manager who assigned a shill to train with me, actually wasted work hours to try to find out my "secrets". She also blatantly took credit for the work of others. I agree with the poster above, take the best ones, the ones you can follow through with and then share the others, because ultimately, you want to make the world a better place, it isn't all about you, and you know that.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

15. See that's how I feel.

[siligut]

16. That's because it is true.

Well, in many cases it is :)

[RedCloud]

17. Hers, his, mine, ours, theirs, yours. How's that for possessive?

[petronius]

18. Ideo-possessiveness in academia - that would make a very interesting meta-study

But it's mine! BACK OFF!!

[noamnety]

19. Oooh that's an excellent thread topic.

"I am way too possessive about my research ideas."

- running off to post that on another forum right now.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

21. lol

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

20. Do you ever have any really dumb research ideas?

The ideas that are impossible to prove or disprove? Or ideas that you know are wrong but would take years and millions to prove idiotic?

Share those.

:hi: