Lets be honest....who here has done the on-line dating thing?

[MadAsHellNewYorker]

Poll question: Lets be honest....who here has done the on-line dating thing?

So I'm sure we have all done it at least once--met someone off the Internet.

But the question is really...what happened?

[southernlad]

1. Come on..

I know I'm the only one who voted "Quickie! or One Night Stand!".

[ronnykmarshall]

17. Same here....

I got me plenty of ..... well ya know online.

[Dookus]

2. In the past

many quickies, a few steady tricks and one serious boyfriend.

[pagerbear]

11. Dookus! Baby!

How's that pup of yours?

[Dookus]

12. he's just dandy

and growing like a weed. He's a lotta fun.

[whistle]

16. You found him on-line? That's really great!

[mhr]

3. Other - Waste Of Time - Takes All The Romance Out Of Dating

Met many people that never add to their profiles.

Never met anyone that lead to a relationship.

Very negative on this form of meeting people.

[terrya]

4. That's how I met Doug, my guy.

We met at an online gay message board, The Advocate Idea Exchange. About 5 years ago.

It turned out ok. :-)

[Brian_Expat]

25. Don't let Terry fool you. . .

. . . he and Doug met online only as a result of Terry's unrequited love for Scott, the local Log Cabin Republican! ;)

*ducking and running*

[whistle]

5. I have to say "All of the above" so what is that "Other"?

...on-line dating I have found to be rather disappointing. However, finding on-line correspondence friends of both genders has been rewarding, just like finding friends in live situations. You win some, you loose some, you learn lessons, and you have disappointments, not much different than real life. My only restriction has been that I am limited to how much and far I can travel, but I have found a rewarding support group of about a dozen or so cyber friends all around the world really and we communicate, drop in on one another, send emails, discuss the world, life, family, share joys, fears, sadness and just enjoy one another's company on-line. I have found two major obstacles to these relationships:

- Politics;
- Religion;
- Sex.

And that goes both ways, because these seem to be hot buttons for many people including myself and because I can only speak of my own reactions I find I get very self centered when it comes to talking about sex, I get dogmatic when it comes to talking about politics that are to the right of my views (which I think are pretty moderate) and I get very intolerant when talking about religion (again when I perceive to position of the other person as fundamentalist and unreasonably intolerant of my view).

So, when I get myself out of the way and just listen (read in the case of cyber) and not allow myself to become too serious about things, then the relationship seems to run more smoothly. Allowing myself to be open minded and honest helps also. That's it!

[MadAsHellNewYorker]

6. just for you

I fixed it to include an all of the above...

[whistle]

15. Thank you, thank you, hopefully there will be others who will find that...

...option will fit:kick:

[motely36]

7. Never done it

I was never on the internets before I met my current SO, so I've never needed it

[dbackjon]

8. Met my Partner on-line

[Chovexani]

9. Met my SO online.

I started on the internets waaaaay before online dating services sprung up, I've never ever used them because I have to be friends with someone before I can date them, it's just how I am. I never understand how people can go someplace looking for a S.O. It's just so weird to me.

I met my current SO on a MUD (text-based roleplaying game) I used to play a while back. It's funny how we met, I was a low-level paladin (holy knight) and I had wandered into some scary monster's lair and got myself killed, lost all my stuff. I was sitting in the inn crying about it when in walks this uberpowerful antipaladin (really evil knight) and he asks me what's wrong. He felt bad for me and got my stuff back (not very evil is it, LOL). We started chatting about rl and got to be friends, I got this huge crush on him and a few months later I worked up the nerve to tell him, thinking I would be completely rejected.

We've been together ever since. Though the long-distance thing has been killing me (he's Australian and I'm a New Yorker), I think it's been worth it. He's visited and all the chemistry we had on the MUD is there twice as much when we're together irl. Right now we are trying to figure something out, he was originally going to try to move here but now I'm not so sure with the way the election went. Hell we might just call it a day and go to Canada. :P

[foreigncorrespondent]

28. I don't know...

...if you have any interest in moving to Australia, but your partner does have the right to sponsor you for immigration into this country. It's called the interdependant visa. If you go to the Australian immigration Web site (http://www.immi.gov.au/), you should be able to find all information. :)

[pagerbear]

10. More than one but not all

Looked/looking for S.O., but also found fuck buddies and regular friends.

[TommyO]

13. I've found a little bit of everything

from the rare one-night stand, to regular play partners, to great friends, and even a long-distance LTR (it will be remedied some day).

All of the above works for this boy.

[Mrs. Venation]

14. That's How Bertha and I Met

We corresponded via email and IM for several months. She was on the left coast, I was living in VA. I flew out to meet her and asked her to marry me. She relocated to the east coast 11 months after we met.

I have met several people on line, and have a few have become dear friends.

[Q3JR4]

18. A mix...

Met someone online, got together one night just to screw like bunnies, five hours later he wanted to date, dated him for 6 months until our relationship broke down, am still bitter over the situation after two years.

[Systematic Chaos]

19. Straight here, but met my wife through match.com

I had to go through about 10 contacts before finding her but it was very much worth it.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

20. i met my mate on DU

[arcane1]

22. what an astonishing coincidence!!

so did I! :D

[archineas]

21. met my partner online

i met my partner online, though not through an online dating site. we both have online journals, and i stumbled upon his one day and left a comment. we began exchanging emails and talking online, and here we are today, a happy little family.

j, *stewing over the providian credit card thread...wow*

[foreigncorrespondent]

23. Found my partner on the 'net!

Sapph and I met online in a chat room almost five years ago.

We chatted for a while over Instant Message, but then she had to leave. The last thing she said to me was, if I ever got to SF to look her up.

I guess neither of us really thought it would go anywhere, especially considering I (at the time) was an Aussie visiting the U.S. But thanks to a friend (another person I had met online) she helped me get to SF where I contacted Sapph.

Now, we have been together almost five years. Our relationship is solid, even though we have the barrier of immigration working against us.

The day will come when we will be able to begin our life together properly without ever having to worry about immigration again. And that day can't come soon enough for me.

[GrrrlRomeo]

24. Met my SO 8 years ago

on AOL... I don't use AOL anymore, and probably wouldn't recommend it now. We went to the same chatroom and ended up chatting for several hours a night. Neither of us intended to date online...it just happened. :)

I'm new, so I couldn't vote...

[davidinalameda]

26. hook ups and a long term

hell I moved to California for the long term

he and I are still good friends

[Deja Q]

27. Waste of time and money. 'tis better to go to a club.

:-(