Cat owners. I need some help with a traumatized kitty.

[KyndCulture]

Ok, my cat has been thru the trauma of me leaving my boyfriend (major ordeal) and moving to a really tiny place that's less than half the size of our old place in the last month. I am sure she misses him, they always played. (I certainly don't lol)

but here's the problem:

She is driving me BATSHIT INSANE. About 4 or 5 times a day she is in my face or climbing my back and wants my undivided attention. I play with her for 20 minutes or so but it's not working. She's somehow forgotten how to play alone. This goes on for HOURS. I work from home so this is becoming a serious issue, besides the fact my back is starting to look like freddie krueger visted me in my sleep (and yes I keep her claws trimmed). I can't get anything done. She's also started biting! She never did that before!

She's 2 years old and has always lived with 2 people until now. She's an only kitty and an indoor cat.

Does anybody know anything I can do....before I lose my mind!

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

1. Another cat, if you have the time and the space for it.

I have been advised to do the same, since my little beast has been sticking to me like a burr since his roomie died.

[KyndCulture]

2. That's what I've been thinking...

just wasn't sure if that was another trauma or a good thing...

she really is making me nuts!

[japple]

3. She's missing her playmate. Another cat just might be the thing. See

Ocelot's post about getting another cat for some good suggestions.

I know what you're going through, though, and it's really hard right now for both you and your cat. Maybe you should try Feliway for your cat and Bach's Rescue Remedy for both of you. I hope things get better soon for you, your cat, and her new playmate.

[IndyOp]

4. Feliway & Bach's Rescue Remedy - 2nding Jap's suggestions...

New toys too -- Google "Da Bird" and look for other toys that are cat activated...

[Lorien]

5. I agree with everyone here-both products for the short term, and a new

kitty playmate for the long term. She's displaying classic signs of loneliness and boredom. This is why I always tell those adopting my fosters that two cats are easier than one (it ain't just a ploy to adopt out more cats)!

[radfringe]

6. needs a buddy

because she's 2, I'd recommend a kitten as opposed to an older cat - transition from an only cat situation to a 2-cat one would be easier and less likely to result in a spitting-hissy fit over who is alpha cat

plus kittens make YOU laugh with their antics - break-ups are hard no matter who initated it

[KyndCulture]

7. Yeah... I've decided we need to be a 2 cat household...

very soon! We discussed it and she and I both decided we need a new family member.... so I am going to the shelter as soon as possible.

[japple]

8. You have both gone through a breakup and you're probably both

feeling kind of emotionally frazzled. She might be picking up on your unsettled feelings, too. Treat yourself, pamper yourself, be good to yourself. That will make things better for you AND your cat.

Did I miss it, or did you mention your cat's name and I overlooked it? Will have to go back and check. When I took Tiny in from a homeless situation, I had two old-lady cats who were not exactly thrilled with a new kitten. He tried his best to endear himself to them, but to no avail. They have both died since and when I adopted Oscar three years ago, Tiny was a middle-aged cat of 9 and couldn't be bothered with a dumb youngster. Oscar tried his best to get Tiny to play with him, but Tiny put him in his place every time. Now they get along pretty well, and sometimes chase each other, but they're not good buddies. I think having two cats closer in age will work much better, and, like radfringe said, "kittens will make you laugh." Good luck, and keep us posted.

[KyndCulture]

9. I didn't mention her name... it's Indra

We are both frazzled!

[Eurobabe]

10. Try the Bachs, and Feliway DOES work

it stopped the pee problems in the dining room. I recommend it even though it's pricey. Good luck, your kitty is probably adjusting...give her time.

[demnan]

11. She's worried about you too!

She loves you and knows you are both going through a loss. She is trying to take care of you in her annoying playful way. What you both need is the love of another cat coming into your life. You will both benefit. Good luck, friend. :hug:

[KyndCulture]

12. Aww thank you!

She's been a bit better today.. still biting me though!