So what IS the point of Valentines Day...?

[FirstLight]

I can use this moment to apprieciate the friends here and elsewhere that show me caring and love in all ways.

It can be a time to spread the love to my kids in a cute and fun way.

But isn't it really just another commercialization of something sacred?
Isn;t it just another reason for us singles to feel like crap and eat cheesecake or chocolate to feel better?

Really, they took christmas and twisted it so that if you arent the perfect family , give the right gifts,and have the perfect hallmark card moments you are a failure... and now valentines comes to put the last nail in the coffin of self worth. If nobody LOVES me, what am I *really* worth?

ugh...I am just glad this nonsense will be over soon and I can stop feeling bad about being single for another year!

[MorningGlow]

1. Depends

It's what you want it to be, I think. It depends on how much you let the advertising world influence how you feel about yourself. I know it's hard to ignore all the red decorations and commercials for engagement rings and shit, but it is possible. (Ooh it's 11:11. :D)

I know it sucks when your romantic life doesn't coincide with the dictated holiday for it (MAN do I know), but
I like your idea of appreciating your friends and loving your kids. What could be more worthy than that? :hug:

[FirstLight]

3. there is always the dichotomy, isn't there?

Honoring what we have and appreciation ...which brings MORE of that love and abundance

or

Damning the darkness and what we don;t have and creating more of that in turn.

I choose love & abundance! ;)

[MorningGlow]

4. Atta girl

:hug:

Check your PM.

[OneGrassRoot]

2. ...

"But isn't it really just another commercialization of something sacred?
Isn;t it just another reason for us singles to feel like crap and eat cheesecake or chocolate to feel better?"


I think so...I agree with this.

I'll also be so glad when you are okay not being in a relationship and being single...for your sake. If I were a betting woman, I'd bet that as soon as you reach that space of releasing that desire/need and not evening thinking about having a partner, that's when the perfect one shall come along.

:hug:

[FirstLight]

5. hehe

that whole "once you like your life and accept it, it will change..."

That is part of that whole mind-trick too, lol...if I as really good with being single in all ways, then i wouldn;t know a good guy if he bit me on the...

...and I'd probably ignore him!

For the most part, i am very solitary...I like being the queen of my own castle and that what I say goes. I like having those days when I smell and look like a funky monkey and don't have to worry about my man running for the hills. I like that my mornings are filled with kidsnuggles and my own brand of silly... those are things that I don't really think I *want* to integrate with partner. Sometimes I think I am really not cut out for the whole cohabitation thing anyway. I like having my own space... just would like to have 'company' now & then! :rofl:

[MorningGlow]

6. Oh man, that ALWAYS happens!

I think it's because when we feel confident in our own selves, our energy changes to a more appealing vibration--independence, happiness, all that good stuff. And sure enough, we all know that's what makes the opposite sex come a'runnin!

[FirstLight]

7. lol...

they come "sniffing around my skirts" ...it's what my grandma used to say. (she was another strong Cappy woman and a southern woman too! my hero :loveya: )

I know that exuding confidence isn't the problem...I am always a great flirt and love to hang out and be social. It's GETTING there that is the hard part. My social life conists of girlscouts and girlsnights! lol Surrounded by so much estrogen, it's sad. And then we get into our "man hater's club" mode and it's all over...guys, you'd better run! :rofl:

[Cleita]

8. At least on Valentine's Day I can show some love and get some love.

I was never able to have children so Mother's Day is a real bummer for me.

[FirstLight]

9. Thanks for the reminder, right?

If the day is about LOVE, and not just that "certain" relationship...then we can do so much MORE with it!

hmmm, perhaps a movement is afoot...turning the holidays into celebrations of higher vibrations and sharing it... cool!

and I think you are a wonderful part of this little corner of DU, so thanks for being YOU!!

:loveya: :hug: :grouphug:

[Cleita]

10. Thanks for understanding.

I always consider Valentine's Day not only about male and female relationships but just the love and appreciation we have among each other, no matter the age or the relationship.

:loveya:

[JanusAscending]

11. My fondest memories of Valentines Day had nothing to do

with male/female love!! It had to do with buying Valentines for all of my classmates and teacher in first grade, waiting to see who got the most!!! It was making my own Valentine cards for my Mom and Dad out of red construction paper and white paper doilies!! It was ALL about LOVE and ACCEPTANCE among our friends and family. The "mushy part" came much later in life. I've got one foot in Heaven, and one foot on earth right now. My Special Valentine is there, and my "Cherub" Valentine is here!!:loveya:
P.S. Does anyone else here that is on Face book, HATE the new format as much as I do? I'm missing so many messages, and am totally confused!!

[BuelahWitch]

12. Here are a few comments I picked up on an Anti-Valentine's Day website

Personally VD doesn't make me feel as bad as it used to. I figure couples also have their problems, albeit different ones than mine.

Edited because meish.org/vd is NOT defunct...

[FirstLight]

13. "slutty lingerie"

:rofl: You rock! thanks!