Asking for guidance

[mysticalchick]

Hey guys .... I'd love to hear what you all have to say regarding a few things going on in my life. All thoughts (public and private) are most welcome.

Lately, it seems people are "hiding" from me. For example, there's a guy at work who was always friendly with me (the usual hello/goodbye thing) and I noticed he's started to avoid me. Going so far as to take the steps in and out of the office because he doesn't want to stand near my desk waiting for the elevator because I might speak to him! (EGADS!!) I know it probably has nothing to do with me personally but it just feels odd. He won't look at me or talk to me. I ran into him in the kitchen, asked if he was alright, he said Yes and almost ran out of that room. Just ... weird.

Then, my cousin's daughter had a car accident about 3 weeks ago (said she fell asleep at the wheel - I have my own thoughts) and I've been trying to keep in contact with them since and am getting a real "butt out" vibe. I'm normally pretty close with my cousin (she's the mom of my goddaughter who passed away 4 years ago) and something seems really ... off.

I also have a friend who has come and gone throughout our 9 year friendship and they've poofed again (as usual, with no word).

What's going on? Is it "all that does not belong must fall away" or something? What is up?

Like I said, any intuitive thoughts or feelings are welcome. Truly. I have no idea.

(Thanks. This is making me feel sad.)

[Sanity Claws]

1. No guidance but commiseration

Mysticalchick,

I didn't want your thread to go without a response so I will just contribute what little I can.
I'm sure that whatever happened had nothing to do with you.
About a week ago, I realized that I have been spending more time alone that I had in the recent past. A couple of friends are busy with their own stuff. They're just hunkering down, it seems. I've pulled away from one friend over simmering resentments. I've also witnessed other people involved in big changes. (I saw a neighbor get into a big fight with someone who is apparently the prime tenant of the apartment.)
I think transitions are underway.
Perhaps one of our astrologers will join in and mention a transit that is causing people to pull away from each other.


:hug:

[OneGrassRoot]

2. That's quite profound, IMHO.....

I also don't have insights or words of wisdom for mysticalchick but wanted to offer hugs of support...:hug: :hug: :hug:

That's an awful feeling, if one is sensitive to such things. :(

It would be interesting to know if others are experiencing or observing a similar trend of people pulling away.

One thing I've been noticing -- and I'm not sure if it's new or I'm simply aware of it because of my efforts and focus of late -- is how disconnected people are.

I mean, even if they enter into a group which is designed to connect, it's as though people are blinded and only focused on THEIR OWN STUFF. There is no actual connection or engagement...they're just focused on "me, me, me."

And, to a certain degree, that is good, as many of these people probably have rarely considered their own needs. The pendulum just seems to have swung in the opposite direction of late, which seems to play in with what you're saying here.

Very interesting. :hi:

[Kookaburra]

3. Why? Not sure.

But I can commiserate with you. I feel like I'm going through the same thing -- right down to the cousin who is ignoring me -- and have been trying to figure it out as well.

I think we're all experiencing similar stuff. This pulling away, feels like it happening to give our souls a chance to readjust to ... something (that's where I get confused).

You're not alone, mc.
:hug:

[Sienna86]

4. One thought...

Is it possible the guy at work feels guilty about something? That was the feeling I got.

[mysticalchick]

5. Thank you all ...

... those who replied here and those who PM'd me.

One of the things I am being guided to do (and it's hard as hell for me, appearances to the contrary) is to put myself out there 'in the world' as an intuitive. To be seen. I have spent a lot of time being invisible and I rather like that. Yet, if I'm going to do what I believe is my work, I have to be out there. And that's hard. I don't like that. But I can't sit around and wait for people to find me, right? If you're going to be of service, you have to let people know that.

I suspect that this shift in my view of myself is causing a wee bit of dissonance to those around me. And I also agree that each of these people I mention in my post all have their own stuff going on and it is most likely NOT all about me. (grin) But, as a sensitive person, I pick up on those vibrations (like lots of you guys do) and it feels sucky.

So, thanks for your words and thoughts. Something IS in the air in the collective and your responses speak to that.

I so appreciate having this community. I truly do. I feel safe and at home. And that ... is NOT sucky! :)

[hermetic]

6. Bear in mind

Some people just get flustered in the presence of great beauty. So, there you go.

[Sanity Claws]

9. Haha

I love this response.

[mysticalchick]

10. Awww ....

.... (blushing) :blush:


yeah, I'm sure it's that! heheh

[NuttyFluffers]

17. i get similar vibe.

coworker is having lusty thoughts that makes it uncomfortable to be around you currently.

cousin's daughter got caught w/ reckless substance use, leading to an accident. fearful of shame (of daughter being judged, cousin's parenting judged, etc.) they are trying to keep it in-house.

friend is off in her own little world again. whether flighty or self-absorbed... doesn't resolve. could be an amusing mixture of both. i'm a total flake and have huge stretches of required alone time, so i can relate. could be partying or hibernation? the easiest way to figure this out is whether the current drug of choice is alcohol or tea... :)

[mysticalchick]

18. Lusty thoughts?

Really? This is so weird. Just weird. I decided that whatever his issues were, they aren't about me. I just happen to be the one noticing them. And if he wants to avoid me, by all means, knock yourself out. LOL

Yeah, I totally know there was something amiss with the car accident and it is being hidden. I've decided to just back off butting my nose into the whole scenario even as I question the WTF-ness of it all.

What I think I "got" from this week's questioning was: what part of this was about me? Answer? None of it. What part of this is mine to look at? Answer: what it stirred up for me to feel people were going out of their way to avoid me. (Added answer: it hurt. And stirred up even further dust for examination about feeling left out.)

I'm working on doing the manifesting process that I mentioned a while back and part of doing that work is dealing with dissonance that shows up when you change your vibration. This is that dissonance come to life. So, dealing with it.

Thanks to EVERYONE who commented here and PM'd me. You guys are awesome. Truly.

[NuttyFluffers]

19. it's not uncommon for unwelcome thoughts to make relationships weird.

the easiest interpretation from a platonic acquaintance shifting to active avoidance (and is he running away from everyone, or just you?) is always an unwelcome revelation.

the easiest unwelcome revelation is lust. it doesn't even have to be real desire, just a weird misplaced sexual energy. most don't pursue such things and it fades in time.

the next easiest unwelcome revelation is conflicting values. he might be an Christian Uber Alles and just found out you follow alternative spirituality -- or something along another values vein. this usually does not fade, unless high professionalism can be held by both.

and so on, until you get down to the bizarre and unusual. for all we know he's seeing auras around you whereas he never saw auras before. you could be coming off as Glenda the Good Witch from the Wizard of Oz, floating in your pink bubble of happiness, and not used to such sights, this is quite disconcerting to him.

but when in doubt, i'd go with the simplest and most benign interpretation first. ;)

[Fire Walk With Me]

11. MysticalChick: You -could- ask your Guides, and their Guides. ;)

Being true to my mystical side (which is truly most of me, not a "side") has caused the vast majority of my friends, associates, and family to disappear.

It's WONDERFUL. I wish that I had done so far earlier. I knew that this would be the result, for at least two decades, but had I truly understood that fully, I wouldn't have waited for so long.

http://2012basics.blogspot.com/2010/02/point-by-point-on-my-earlier.html

And leave me alone! Blessedly alone! And I can tell when you lie to me but I never express it! (I can sense earthquakes days/weeks away...sheesh, I can sense the energy of a lie, of bad intent...you'd think that would be completely understood...no worries...):hi::hug:

Perhaps eventually people will accept that I am not a problem to be solved, and that attempting to solve others as perceived problems is a great deal of why the world is insane, and the source of much of the trouble in the world. "Save me from the people who would save me from myself; they've got muscles for brains." -Gang of Four

Leave me alone so that I can fulfill my goal of transcending negativity (my own and others') and that I can then use my skills to bring some positive energy to this thing. If you don't understand me or this, leave me alone :hi: If you do understand this and don't want to leave me alone, leave me alone :hi: If you are spiritually-oriented, please demonstrate that you are capable of proffering such principles! :hi:

[mysticalchick]

12. Oh, I've chatted with them ...

... Trust me on that. I was just seeking some other perspectives from my buddies here. :)

[Fire Walk With Me]

13. ...

http://litanyburns.com/books.html

[MorningGlow]

7. First impression

Interesting--I'm the type of person who loves looking for patterns, but as I read your OP I got the opposite feeling--that these three instances had nothing to do with each other or you.

Your cousin is in shock and grieving, and for her that might take the form of shutting people out. It wasn't about you; it was about her feelings right now. Let her have her time, but do check in with her in a while and see how she reacts. I'll bet she'll welcome your comfort.

As for your friend--I'm getting the vibe that s/he is being self absorbed. Again, has nothing to do with you.

However, that guy at work? Just WEIRD. It was hard to read that one, but I'm also picking up guilt about something. Don't know what it is about, though. Keep an eye on that one.

:hug:

[Kookaburra]

8. I noticed that kind of behavior in my coworkers --

especially the coworkers who were one level up from me or higher -- they started behaving this way just before I was laid off.

Maybe your coworker knows something and is trying to keep from sharing it with you? Might or might not be about you, but maybe he doesn't trust himself not to tell everything he knows so he's pulling back to keep the company secrets?

[northernlights]

14. sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

I agree (as usual) with MG on your cousin's daughter and your friend.

As to the co-worker -- who knows? I just had the same thing happen with the guy in my MLT program that I sit with. He's usually very talkative and outgoing. Suddenly, was bare acknowledging my presence, grunting at most in response to anything I said. I felt just awful. Wondered if I'd done something? Then wondered if he felt guilty about something? All the time, reminding myself that it's not all about me ;) and that it's probably something going on in his own life. And then out of the blue this morning, he's back to normal. Talkative, open.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

15. gee wish I could add something--MG's take feels right on, though

Your reading for me was so right on, I wish I could respond in kind!

:)

I guess it's all about how you respond for yourself now... wondering how to "fix" things with these people or taking the space that's opened up to pursue what fits there?

Certainly not reacting, I don't mean that, or retaliating at all (i.e. cutting people off in reaction to thinking they're shutting down on you), but more like seeing what new energy becomes noticeable in the space.

but you probably already know that.... :D

[Mist]

16. Similar stuff has happened in my life over the last couple of years. Seems I remember

Michael Tsarion, in one of his lectures that was taped and put on youtube, mentioning how there would be a time (yes, as we approach 2012!) when those relationships that aren't good for you will fall away. Sometimes the gods remove people from our orbit because maybe those folks are negative for you, or extraneous to your life. I've even experienced people have mini-meltdowns around me, and realized it had nothing to do with me, and there was nothing I could do to help them. There seems to be a quickness and intensity in these events. In other words, devolving friendships that might have taken a year to fade are now taking only days.

[Lindsey]

20. I think pulling away is happening all over. I have wonderful friends

who really want to do things but I'm just in such an isolated place spiritual/mentally that lately, I'm not wanting to do anything on the weekends. This is to recover from my work week at my job which I intensely dislike. And at work there's also a guy who I always connected with in a fun way and he's being very standoffish. I've even thought about talking to him about it. Also, as Mist posted, I personally have seen mini-meltdowns happening all over. For example, it seems almost every department where I work is falling apart. :shrug: I definitely wouldn't take it personally. One of my favorite books is "The Four Agreements" and that's one of the agreements.