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I never did try to force positivity, or to fake it when I didn't feel it. I, too, was worried about it having effect on what I "attracted" to myself from the world, but more importantly, what influence my unprocessed fears/angers might have on my 2 babies!
I think I found an excellent way to deal with this - to be there with all of my loving intention for my children, while saving private time (when they were sleeping) to be conscious of my deep feelings and problems. By writing all of my fears and conflicts down every day in my journal, this purged me of the pressure of the feelings agitating to be dealt with, it helped me order them to understand them better, and it, most importantly, gave all of my negativity and chaos a "location", a place outside of myself. This was a great comfort and relief to me - knowing that I was true to myself by expressing all of my pain (and joys) in my journal, but giving it a place tucked away so that I could feel free to be more open, loving, and joyful with my kids.
One of the things that has been bothering me lately is the concept that negativity attracts more of the same, that fearing something enough can bring it to pass. I don't really have a choice right now in how I feel most of the day. I have a lot of fear to grapple with, and I have to face it honestly in order to let it pass
I personally do believe that negativity attracts negativity, although to a degree, (and nuanced by intent) for if this were the simple case in my lifetime, I would have died a thousand deaths IMO! Certainly in attracting people into one's life, into one's friendship circles, I have found this to be the case. Not just negative energy patterns working here, or vibrations, but behavioural patterns that motivate people to send out certain social "cues" to others. I definitely discovered that when I became aware of the patterns I was acting out, I started to feel more relaxed, open, and not expecting negativity from the world, and only then did I start to attract some wonderful people into my life. I have a fairly small social circle, but what I have is made up of people who I truly I want to have in my life.
My advice here to you: don't be afraid of not having a choice to deal with your fears - for this is a very good thing IMO, oxbow, this is not a negative process. In my opinion, and in my experience, it is DENYING these feelings and states that cause the real misery in our lives. The "art" of doing this is what each individual does with dealing with their own, unique "package" and circumstances.
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DemEx
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