my daughter is so much better

[mopinko]

she has really come to grips with being bp. wow. major difference. a big part of that is realizing that everything is not my fault. phew. all of the sudden, i am mom again. not the evil witch. not the source of all pain. mom. holy cow.

[DemExpat]

1. Well, isn't this a wonderful joy, mopinko.....

I am so very happy for you.

Enjoy!

DemEx

[NMMNG]

2. That's great

It's amazing what perspective can do. Hopefully things will remain stable for a good long while. :thumbsup:

[varkam]

3. Congrats!

Insight is a wonderful thing :) I wish you both well :hi:

[bloom]

4. I'm happy to hear that.

I know what that's like - the fault thing. It's difficult being a mom and having the anger of the problem directed at you.

My daughter's medication is helping her as well. It's a process.

[stepnw1f]

5. So True....

Once I realized and admitted to myself that I had problems, I felt a big burden was lifted from me. I then could also take control a part of my life, which I couldn't before.

[Random_Australian]

6. Congratulations!

:party:

[MaryBear]

7. Glad to hear that, mopinko.

I, too, have a bp daughter. And I have come to realize that when I am the evil mother, the disease has kicked in. Still, it is hard to receive the message. I'm glad you have a reprieve. May it continue.

=MB

[mopinko]

8. thank you all

so glad to have people to share the ups and downs with.
:toast:

[MaryBear]

9. I'm new at this.

Actually, what is new is my awareness of how serious bp can be. I can use a lot of support. My dtr is in locked facility. I'm separated from my husband and he is going off the deep end hallucinating about dead relatives. AAARRRRGGGHHH! It all makes me feel crazy. Like a crazy sandwich.
:crazy::think::crazy: :argh: :yoiks:

[mopinko]

10. i can name that tune in 3 notes.

you have my deepest sympathies. i have been in both halves of that situation, although not quite at the same time. add to that that i am an artist/weirdo/little depressive/suffering from an invisible mystery disease and easy to smear and discredit. when you are in a crazy sandwich, the bread blames everything on you.

i was actually kind of appalled that the institutions that treated my daughter all said in their pr that they took a whole family approach, but it never materialized, and i was not where i could be the one to maneuver that. she spent a week and a half in the locked ward, then 3 weeks in a day program, where we had to drive her and pick her up about 20 miles away. then months of med trial and error.
my hubby was not that bad at that time, so he took time off work to do the driving. i was so sick at the time, the whole thing left me nearly incapacitated. (i finally got a dx, i have fibromyalgia, which is a chronic fatigue like thing.)
he has sleep problems which made him a little edgy, but that was about the time that he started to slide, and last summer really broke down. he wasn't hallucinating, but he was paranoid. and angry. he couldn't sit in the same room with me. he was scared of me. the 2 of them went around telling everyone i was the world's largest bitch. i was finally starting to feel better at the time. so at least i had the strength to get through it all. and i knew it was sleep. he was flopping like a fish at night, and falling asleep on the train. and had always snored like a bulldozer. i dragged him to my doctor, who had been my doc and friend for 6 years, (but had not helped me, just kept referring me to shrinks.) and he convinced her that we were just headed for a divorce, i was nuts, etc. she insisted she couldn't treat the situation as an emergency, even though he was talking about stepping on the third rail of the electric trains, and telling me to eat cyanide.
yeah, the meat in a crazy sandwich. feel free to rant, my dear. this place helped me out a lot at that time. you can go back to last july and august, and find my threads. folks here have great ears, and shoulders.
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[MaryBear]

11. Thank you, mopinko.

The locked facility is 300 miles away. When she is sickest she tells people there not to tell me anything. Even though I am her best lobbyist. She is conserved so I have no legal voice. None anyway because she is an adult.

[mopinko]

12. that consent shit.

i ran into so much trouble with that, even before she turned 18. her primary doc was the worst. i had a screaming match with her nurse in the waiting room over drug level tests. i was leaving town, leaving her with friends, and just wanted to know if she was taking her meds or not.

more :grouphug: is all i can say.

[Bluerthanblue]

13. I'm so glad for youMo AND for your daughter...

... acceptance of the illness is not easy- but so crutial to letting go of blame and guilt.

It's hard enough coping with life, add to that an illness, especially a mental illness, and life becomes overwhelming in the best of circumstances.

By accepting that its not your fault- she can also come to grips with the reality that its not HER fault either- its not anyones 'fault'- it happens, to the best of people- for no good reason, just like most things in life-

I'm happy for your family-
:grouphug:

blu