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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:11 PM Original message |
ARTICLE: Independent Women Can Choose to 'Date Down' |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:14 PM Response to Original message |
1. I hate reports like this. They serve to remind me just how shallow |
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nam78_two (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:24 PM Response to Reply #1 |
91. I agree-I hate them too/nt |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 10:06 PM Response to Reply #1 |
123. It's simply biology.. |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-06-06 07:48 AM Response to Reply #123 |
190. Surviving is one thing |
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AnnInLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:16 PM Response to Original message |
2. Me |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:22 PM Response to Reply #2 |
4. For me, I ask whether people are marrying stuff or are they marrying people? |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:37 PM Response to Reply #4 |
12. what do you mean? marrying as a means to get stuff? |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:39 PM Response to Reply #12 |
14. Marrying based on earning potential of the prospective mate... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:42 PM Response to Reply #14 |
17. I had an odd experience with this where a girl who wouldn't give me the time of day |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:31 PM Response to Reply #4 |
43. marriage is a financial agreement |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:34 PM Response to Reply #43 |
46. like Poppy and Barbara Bush--you think he couldn't have gotten a prettier AND nicer girl? |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:10 PM Response to Reply #46 |
60. that's a good example |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:06 PM Response to Reply #60 |
81. if we dug up Washington TODAY, it would still be close (but he'd probably win) I was going to say |
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U4ikLefty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 10:01 PM Response to Reply #81 |
178. LOL....are you saying that her parents had to feed her with a sling-shot? n/t |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:44 PM Response to Reply #43 |
115. Somebody more cynical than myself! well done! |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:36 PM Response to Reply #2 |
11. how old are you? |
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AnnInLa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:09 PM Response to Reply #11 |
58. I'm 17 1/2........and you? |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:39 PM Response to Reply #58 |
70. and already married twice....impressive. You must be the hottest girl in Mississippi. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:27 PM Response to Reply #70 |
94. been on DU a couple yrs too. |
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wicket (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 10:01 PM Response to Reply #58 |
120. Typo, maybe? |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:27 PM Response to Reply #11 |
150. don't you know |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:21 PM Response to Original message |
3. "I'll make babies, you keep me alive. Done deal." |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:31 PM Response to Reply #3 |
8. In addition to what you point out, these ideas serve to measure human worth... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:40 PM Response to Reply #8 |
15. is saying that a dynamic exists the same as approving of it? If I say there are serial killers and |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:43 PM Response to Reply #15 |
18. Saying it is one thing. Validating it by accepting the idea that |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:53 PM Response to Reply #18 |
23. if you were interested in Paris Hilton, unless you are as rich, she would either have to |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:16 PM Response to Reply #23 |
109. Interesting thoughts, but missed my point... |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 10:04 PM Response to Reply #109 |
122. This would explain why my wife spends so much time watching me... |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:09 PM Response to Reply #15 |
29. Often those lines are very blurred |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:21 PM Response to Reply #29 |
36. conversely, those who thought gender roles were entirely social did sex change surgery on kids |
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davekriss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:42 PM Response to Reply #36 |
72. Sex change surgery on children? |
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Tanuki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:58 PM Response to Reply #72 |
78. See the "Medical Change" article at this link |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:12 PM Response to Reply #78 |
84. that's the case I was thinking of |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:04 PM Response to Reply #36 |
106. That's very compelling but still misses the point |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 03:05 PM Response to Reply #106 |
160. The data is about diferences ON AVERAGE. |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 07:02 PM Response to Reply #160 |
167. You're absolutely right about the averages and the crappy reporting |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 07:48 PM Response to Reply #167 |
168. LOL, Stossel is an absolute moran. |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:12 PM Response to Reply #168 |
169. Don't get me started on his tripe about the environment! n/t |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 02:58 PM Response to Reply #36 |
159. It was reading about that poor kid that gave me a vicious hate for "blank-slatism." |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 02:50 PM Response to Reply #8 |
157. I hate it when people reject theories just because they don't fit with thier ideology |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:39 PM Response to Reply #3 |
13. I come from a step or two below the country club and blue collar people have their serious faults |
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Union Thug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:41 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. wow, and I'VE been accused of painting with a broad brush. |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:13 PM Response to Reply #16 |
35. not all blue collar and not more than other people. Some wealthier people have a tendency to... |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:55 PM Response to Reply #13 |
25. Uh, I kinda know that already |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:28 PM Response to Reply #3 |
112. According to paleontologists, men didn't even hunt until recently |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 12:19 AM Response to Reply #112 |
136. There's forensic evidence of a great deal of aggression here |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 12:58 AM Response to Reply #136 |
139. Yes! It's the Flintstones all the way! |
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Leopolds Ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:27 PM Response to Reply #136 |
171. What we're gonna do right here is go back, way back, back into time. Back to the days when |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:33 AM Response to Reply #112 |
146. Men were responsible for protecting their mates |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:08 PM Response to Reply #146 |
149. That doesn't justify the amount of generalizing that is done today |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:42 PM Response to Reply #149 |
154. That is fair |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 03:09 PM Response to Reply #149 |
161. "You have scientists creating just-so stories based on their own preconceived notions" |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 06:47 PM Response to Reply #161 |
166. What sacred cows would those be? Do you know me? |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:12 PM Response to Reply #166 |
170. I agree that both biology-is-everything AND enviroment -is-everything extremes are crap. |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:35 PM Response to Reply #170 |
172. I disagree about Pinker not having an agenda but YMMV |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 02:45 PM Response to Reply #3 |
156. Depends on where the hunter-gatherer society was. |
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QuestionAll... (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 03:26 PM Response to Reply #3 |
162. it's one of those 'old husbands tales' nt |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:24 PM Response to Original message |
5. My wife makes one hell of a lot more money than I do... |
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jelly (312 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:51 PM Response to Reply #5 |
101. Sounds about right |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:48 PM Response to Reply #101 |
116. I'm sorry to hear that... |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:29 PM Response to Reply #101 |
151. sounds like someone |
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jelly (312 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:51 PM Response to Reply #151 |
177. The worst part? |
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Demeter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:25 PM Response to Original message |
6. Just Try "Marrying Down" |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:44 PM Response to Reply #6 |
19. problem with women marrying up especially here in LA: you'll be traded in |
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EstimatedProphet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:30 PM Response to Original message |
7. "Date down" is insulting at its nature |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:46 PM Response to Reply #7 |
21. it is simply putting on the table things people think about anyway. Women in particular often |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:25 PM Response to Reply #21 |
39. It is funny to watch DUers become holier-than-God about how they would NEVER (clutch the pearls).... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:29 PM Response to Reply #39 |
41. let me put on a Skoal Bandit cap, a sleeveless Metalica tee shirt, and some greasy jeans |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:36 PM Response to Reply #41 |
47. Is it just my perception (based on being on one side of 'the game') that girls are more sensitive... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:02 PM Response to Reply #47 |
55. status, class, & money are for women what looks are for guys--one of the first filters |
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Leopolds Ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:37 PM Response to Reply #55 |
173. Yes, and that is why we will always be a capitalism-riven, class-based society |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:11 PM Response to Reply #47 |
61. Not necessarily when it comes to the marriage level |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:08 PM Response to Reply #61 |
82. yep--manners are for the manor. you can do what you please with the peasants. someone in my family |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:27 PM Response to Reply #41 |
66. You might attract more women than you think |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:13 PM Response to Reply #66 |
86. I meant out of the women here. |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:54 PM Response to Reply #66 |
118. Or his exacting physical standards |
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EstimatedProphet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:09 PM Response to Reply #39 |
59. Not what I'm saying |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:30 PM Response to Reply #7 |
42. How do they define "dating down"? |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:10 PM Response to Reply #42 |
83. I'm glad you're happy, and I wouldn't mind being that guy, but the author meant money and status |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
9. In six decades on the planet, I've never known a woman who "dated down." |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:48 PM Response to Reply #9 |
22. I think I've seen that elsewhere--successful women who want a MORE successful mate... |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 03:13 AM Response to Reply #9 |
143. that's hard to tell though |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 05:30 PM Response to Reply #143 |
163. Well, a cursory scan of 'dating/mating' ads and websites ... |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:47 PM Response to Reply #9 |
155. It's the same way with some guys, in regards to looks. |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 05:38 PM Response to Reply #155 |
164. I've heard more than one female friend say ... |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:36 PM Response to Original message |
10. Well I prefer dating guys with similar education to myself |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:51 PM Response to Reply #10 |
76. Me too - well, except for the "dating guys" part - lol! |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:50 PM Response to Reply #76 |
117. I prefer intelligent, educated women... |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:20 PM Response to Reply #76 |
130. Ideally I would like to meet someone who is also a biologist |
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Leopolds Ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:11 PM Response to Reply #76 |
174. I love how folks who are "progressive" and all that think they're too smart for working class |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 10:47 PM Response to Reply #174 |
181. lol! |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:59 PM Response to Reply #10 |
102. Do you really believe |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:58 PM Response to Reply #102 |
119. My sister is like that - won't date someone w/out a degree |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 10:12 PM Response to Reply #119 |
124. That really seems weird to me |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 05:46 PM Response to Reply #124 |
165. Oh, I've seen that phenomenon, too |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:08 PM Response to Reply #102 |
127. You would do well to learn what "prima facie" means..... |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:23 PM Response to Reply #127 |
131. Well, that's a pretty snotty response |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:28 PM Response to Reply #102 |
132. Well then you are one of the few exceptions |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:45 PM Response to Reply #132 |
135. It IS Texas... |
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Leopolds Ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:32 PM Response to Reply #132 |
175. Most well-educated, upper-middle class liberal and conservative people I've met |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:29 PM Response to Reply #102 |
133. "I have yet to MEET anyone who's my intellectual superior"?? |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:38 PM Response to Reply #133 |
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Donnachaidh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:53 PM Response to Original message |
24. what a crock of shit -- look who she is citing as *examples* |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:22 PM Response to Reply #24 |
37. Apparently, you don't. :) |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:25 PM Response to Reply #24 |
38. too late--you already read it--AND took the time to comment. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 03:57 PM Response to Original message |
26. Caught between the longing for love and the struggle for the legal tender. |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:05 PM Response to Reply #26 |
28. That's pretty much how I feel too... |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:10 PM Response to Reply #28 |
30. Personally, ALL of my friends are like this, Withy.... |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:12 PM Response to Reply #30 |
31. I know one female in my circle who fits that description |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:37 PM Response to Reply #28 |
48. I would prefer a peer too, but because so many women like guys who make more... |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:02 PM Response to Reply #48 |
105. I prefer to split things up or take turns paying, myself. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:01 PM Response to Original message |
27. date down? as a woman i would be sooooo pissed if it were said my |
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Annces (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 04:25 PM Response to Original message |
32. I am not sure about dating up or down |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:00 PM Response to Reply #32 |
54. would that be unique to white guys? I'm not insulted, but when it comes to relationships, guyness |
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Annces (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:06 PM Response to Reply #54 |
56. I guess I said white guys |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
33. I have been the guy in such a relationship, |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:32 PM Response to Reply #33 |
44. background does matter at least as much as money. I've met people from higher up the foodchain |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:34 PM Response to Reply #44 |
69. background was never the problem, |
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Tatiana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:01 PM Response to Reply #33 |
103. For some reason, this really touched me. |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
34. Don't hate the player, hate the game. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:26 PM Response to Original message |
40. St. Paul was right to tell us not to marry unless we couldn't help it |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:33 PM Response to Reply #40 |
45. Maybe, but you gotta consider the source, too. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:55 PM Response to Reply #40 |
50. Um... if you're taking love advice from St. Paul... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:57 PM Response to Reply #40 |
53. man, how did he know 2,000 years ago we'd have internet porn? |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:16 PM Response to Reply #53 |
88. I'm sure Jesus mentioned it to him on the road to Damascus |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:21 PM Response to Reply #88 |
90. THAT'S why he was temporarily struck blind! |
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Leopolds Ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 10:06 PM Response to Reply #40 |
179. Hell is Other People. nt |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:51 PM Response to Original message |
49. huh -- my ex-girlfriends say they were all "dating down" |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:56 PM Response to Reply #49 |
51. Laura Bush was dating down (the evolutionary chain) |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 05:56 PM Response to Original message |
52. I've always assumed being heterosexual and female implies "dating down" |
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Vektor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:17 PM Response to Reply #52 |
62. OMG! |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:22 PM Response to Reply #62 |
63. Well, if I were dating John Kerry I wouldn't think that. |
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Vektor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:44 PM Response to Reply #63 |
73. Tee-hee. |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:46 PM Response to Reply #63 |
74. hmmmm... Does him being a senator outrank her gazillion dollars? make them equal, or is he just her |
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Vektor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:59 PM Response to Reply #74 |
79. Mmmmm... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:27 PM Response to Reply #79 |
93. see? he's thinking about it in that pic... |
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Vektor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:27 PM Response to Reply #93 |
111. He probably is. |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:42 PM Response to Reply #111 |
114. actually, that's the beginning of the bow he does when the lady takes the drink off his tray |
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Vektor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 10:01 PM Response to Reply #114 |
121. Whoa! |
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Demeter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 08:54 AM Response to Reply #52 |
145. Good One! |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 06:07 PM Response to Original message |
57. My son's wife usually makes more than he does. |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
64. Several of my female ancestors have married down |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
65. My only definition of "marrying down" is marrying someone dumber |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:50 PM Response to Reply #65 |
75. my mom talked me into doing that because she was worried I was being too picky... |
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crispini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:12 PM Response to Reply #65 |
85. I agree, sort of. |
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ecstatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:27 PM Response to Original message |
67. damned if you do, damned if you don't |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:53 PM Response to Reply #67 |
77. nope--ones in the middle are overlooked. Assholes attract women like flies to shit |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:28 PM Response to Original message |
68. Women Have ALWAYS Been Able to Date and Even Marry Down |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:15 PM Response to Reply #68 |
87. That's not true technically. In medieval Iceland the act of courting was automatically... |
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Annces (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 07:41 PM Response to Original message |
71. Also you could watch that show "Sex and the City" |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:03 PM Response to Original message |
80. The logical corollary of this discussion is; "I can afford a hotter chick than this one". |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:33 PM Response to Reply #80 |
96. sadly, a lot of guys think that way. I'd give a girl bonus pints for sticking with me through the |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 02:58 PM Response to Reply #96 |
158. Shouldn't we be about changing hearts and minds? |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:18 PM Response to Original message |
89. for the women protesting that class and money don't matter, would you date this guy? (PIC) |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:25 PM Response to Reply #89 |
92. A lot of men wouldn't want to date a woman who looked like that either |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:29 PM Response to Reply #92 |
95. you don't have any teeth or eyelids either? |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:42 PM Response to Reply #95 |
99. I don't look like that |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:09 PM Response to Reply #99 |
107. How about that guy in a tux and Rolls Royce (Ross Perot)? |
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nam78_two (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:37 PM Response to Reply #89 |
97. So is this a logical argument? |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:43 AM Response to Reply #97 |
148. I would force Tucker Carlson to date the guy in my picture. |
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Pushed To The Left (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:39 PM Response to Original message |
98. I think the terms "dating up" or "dating down" are bullshit |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:01 PM Response to Reply #98 |
104. My wife and I met through the AOL personals |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:01 PM Response to Reply #104 |
125. how much difference? double? triple? $10-20K either way is in the same socio-economic ballpark |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:13 PM Response to Reply #125 |
128. About triple... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 02:48 AM Response to Reply #128 |
141. is she taking applications for backup husbands? |
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Mythsaje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 03:00 AM Response to Reply #141 |
142. LOL... |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 08:46 PM Response to Original message |
100. Note that *logically* this is a completely barren phenomenon... |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:13 PM Response to Reply #100 |
108. I agree with your third possibility especially. |
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mrreowwr_kittty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:38 PM Response to Reply #108 |
113. You can see them any Friday night at happy hour |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:02 PM Response to Reply #100 |
126. actually, it's the opposite of being choosier. since they have fewer men above them, it's down or |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 11:16 PM Response to Reply #126 |
129. The point is that they're choosERS now, not choosEES... |
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Porcupine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 12:22 AM Response to Reply #126 |
137. A remarkably large number of them choose nothing. |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:40 AM Response to Reply #137 |
140. And they're free to do that. |
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SmokingJacket (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Dec-03-06 09:19 PM Response to Original message |
110. "Up"? "Down" WTF??? |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 05:59 AM Response to Original message |
144. I select mates not as ambitious as me... |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:41 AM Response to Reply #144 |
147. Shaw said something like this in Pygmalion. Eliza marries a dope who worships her |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:31 PM Response to Original message |
152. i've never married up |
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KansDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 01:42 PM Response to Original message |
153. If it weren't for "dating down..." |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 09:42 PM Response to Reply #153 |
176. roger that |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 09:46 PM Response to Reply #153 |
188. ironically, I am find this true as a college professor. my peers at work date "up" for money |
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lcdnumber6 (232 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Dec-04-06 10:06 PM Response to Original message |
180. My boyfriend and I are struggling with this now... |
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Porcupine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 03:06 AM Response to Reply #180 |
182. Sounds like you'd rather be wealthy than happy. |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 09:57 AM Response to Reply #180 |
183. this is the pragmatic side of the issue, but what activities do you have to give up because he can't |
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architect359 (544 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 10:33 AM Response to Reply #180 |
185. Wanting financial stability is fine |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 10:51 AM Response to Reply #180 |
186. What you're describing is a different issue |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 10:04 AM Response to Original message |
184. If someone is dating someone else |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 09:44 PM Response to Reply #184 |
187. has anyone ever told you you're being too picky about who you go out with? |
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USA_1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-05-06 11:56 PM Response to Original message |
189. "Date Down"??? |
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