Reply #16: The love angle is part of it, but it's an immature love

[SoCalDem]

one of fantasy and movie/tv origin.. Raising children is HARD, and they NEED help.. The sad fact is that sometimes the parent(s) of these young mothers is a "beaten-down" person herself, and the young mothers get very little help.. They become the vulnerable "prey" of a man...any man.. who offers the stability that they think will happen if they join up with him.. This only ends up with more kids, and most of the time, the guy splits..

I am not saying that these young mothers are willfully bad parents..just severely unprepared to parent.

Many studies have also indictaed that "boyfriends" are often responsible for child abuse in unstable families..Sometimes the mother is so afraid to "lose" him, that her children can become endangered..

I am in NO way saying that ALL young mothers are unfit ..There are cases where an intact family can help the young mother, and she can do all the things she would have done anyway, but in communities where teen-motherhood is the norm, the sad stories are likely to be the norm, as well..