Reply #14: This is an interesting topic.

[Bunny]

There are so many different things going on here.

First, the wife may have been unfaithful, maybe not. If she was, and she knows or strongly believes that a child is not her husband's, how likely is it that she would agree to testing? Not very, if she wants to keep her family together. However, if she did not cheat, and the husband requested testing (for whatever his reasons are), she is quite likely to be greatly offended, and refuse the testing. This may feed into his suspicions that she was cheating after all, but it still doesn't answer the question, does it? Unless he's clinically paranoid, this could put a serious rift in their marriage. Which would endanger all the children in the family unit. Who loses? The kids.

Or, if she didn't cheat, she may be so pissed that she dumps him over it. Or, if she doesn't dump him, it could certainly lead to a serious breach in their marriage. (I know it would with me!) Which would endanger all the children in the family unit. Who loses? The kids.

I am all for making the biological parents pay for their own children. NO person should be compelled to financially support a child that they did not biologically produce. No doubt about that.

But what if the wife made one mistake, sincerely regrets it, and doesn't repeat it. Should the entire family be broken up over it? Any other children who may belong to the husband would also be affected by it, after all.

I guess it all boils down to trust. If the relationship between a husband and wife is such that he feels he has to question his childrens' paternity, then it probably was a relationship in big trouble anyway.

So, I guess I don't have a strong opinion about it either way.