Reply #7: Left unsocialized , kids are wild animals who are interested in self

[havocmom]

and that is the truth. When we fail to socialize them, they stay that way. For an illustration of my point, look to the White House. There is a grown, not well socilized kid there and he is making a big mess of the world.

There was a story last week about a nine year old who killed his mother.
Not the norm, but getting less uncommon all the time.

Kids will hit, bite, kick, throw naturally to express anger, frustration and/or attempt to exert control. As they get older, they will learn new methods. Unless they are taught skills to redirect these impluses, they will STAY VILOENT. Kids are so sweet and cute, but the fact is nature made them wholey self-serving and without guilt. Fact is, the traits we generally like to associate with kids, sweet, mild, gentle, loving are the learned ones. The tendency to use violence to get what they want is what nature put there. THAT is the instinct. To control others is to survive when you are small and 'helpless'.