Reply #11: Have you told Kevin that?

[GoddessOfGuinness]

It may seem obvious to you; but most 19 year olds I've known live in a pretty self-absorbed world. I don't mean that in an insulting way...it's just a necessary part of the process of growing up...finding yourself, etc. As long as it's possible for him to manipulate your mom, he'll continue to do so.

I suspect that over the next 5 or 6 years, Kevin's going to naturally discover not only what he wants to do with his life and how important his family is, but how important he is to you as well. You can help him along by expressing your feelings about the current situation and your love and concern for him and your mother.

You can't force someone to get therapy, but you can let him know that you'll help him and be supportive of him should he decide to take that route.

It sounds like you all really need a lot of love right now...

Good luck! ~hugggggggggs~