Reply #19: Mike,

[Lindsey]

I can't tell you how horribly I feel for you. My best friend had to end his relationship with his lover (a gay male couple) due to alcoholism. I've NEVER seen my friend more devasted. He's the kind of guy that has always been able to accomplish anything he set out to do - except this - to convince his partner to quit drinking. I'll never forget the night when he found coke in his partners jacket pocket while the partner was at work. He called me in an absolute panic. He gathered all of John's (fake name) things and when John got home from work, took him to a hotel that he had paid for. My friend found so much comfort by going to al-anon meetings as well as going to therapy. It's now been over a year and he's so relieved that it's all over. I wish I could help. I'll send light/healing energy your way. peace