Reply #20: I've heard it said

[pagerbear]

...that sometimes the most loving thing you can do with an addict is let her hit bottom. As someone else has alreayd mentioned, only then will she recognize her situation and how powerless she is over alcohol.

I'm glad you've taken steps toward taking care of yourself. Have you looked into Al-Anon? Just like only another alcoholic knows what it's like to live as an alcoholic, people who have lived with alcoholics can help you as you continue to take care of yourself. I'm sure you're already aware of it as an option.

I hope you'll let us know how things progress. I wish both you and your wife a slow and gentle recovery.