Anyone here have a fightin' family?

[Robb]

I'm still trying to wrap my brain around an adult friend whose father drank a fair amount at a wedding and started punching her recently. And apparently this happens from time to time.

I couldn't believe my ears, out of the mouth of this intelligent person came "I started it," "I was riling him up," "It was my fault because _______."

Childhood trauma runs deep, I guess. No serious physical injuries took place, but still. I'm feeling inadequately prepared to assist, aside from the obvious moves. Anyone lived through this stuff and want to share a little sage advice?