Reply #14: Sometimes when you set boundaries you have to YELL to be heard.

[SharonAnn]

It's ok! It's not you, it's their hearing.

I have found that life is a lot smoother since my family knows that I just won't take their **** any more. It took a while to train them, once I finally realized that I was being taken serious advantage of, but I was firm about it.

And then, after I moved out, if they got out of line when I was visiting, I just got up, got my things, and left.

If they misbehavewhile they're visiting me, I just go get their things, hand them to them, and say good-bye while I walk them to the door.

Is it hard? At first, but then it gets much easier. And after a while, they learned to respect my boundaries, at least most of the time.