Reply #56: I agree completely, and you did your friend a big favor too!

[bettyellen]

I slowly out this guy I was seeing lied a great deal of little things. I started to feel a bit manipulated as he was really pushing to move in with me, and i had concerns/ doubts i couldn't quite explain. He was pretty manipulative, he always had a story to cover his tracks. I got concerned and found out he was hiding a lot!! A violent episode with an ex wife being one thing. A lot of fuck ups with the law for another, serious property damage and DUI's. It totally freaked me out and made me realize how many bigger lies i was told too.
Any one of those would have me dumping him. I need to be with someone who respects others is all.
Lesson I learned: people who so easily hurt other people are pathological and will gladly lie to you to have a chance to do it again. Fuck that. Let somebody else rehab him, i am not so easy to be around that he wouldn't think i was "asking for it" . Dodged a bullet for sure!