Now the cat's out of the bag. Who here is in an "open" relationship?

[CanuckAmok]

Thanks to jeter's "threesome" post, all out dirty laundry is out there for you prudes to see ;) .

So, yes, Mrs. Amok and I are in an 'open' marriage. We don't practice monogamy.

We've been together for about eight years, and legally married since 2000.

We sleep with other people. Not very often, mind you, but we do, from time to time. Sometimes as a couple, sometimes apart. However, we have rules, and here they are:

100% disclosure. If one of us gets lucky, that person has to tell the other one right away, and include 'how far' things went. If at all possible, we check in *before8 anything goes down, just to make sure it's okay with the other one of us.

100% safe sex. That means no intercourse without a condom. Mrs. Amok also prefers to give oral to to other men when they are wearing condoms--that's her perogative.

No overnighters (although if we're together, the 'third wheel' can stay overnight with us).

If one of us is uncomfortable with an arrangement the other is making/has made, we have the right to say 'no', and put a stop to it, no questions asked.

Occasional monogamous moratoria, in which we agree not to see other people. That time frame can run anywhere between a few days to a year or more.

Regular STD tests, when we're active with other people.


So, that's how we do it. It works for us, so far.

Who else walks on the wild side? How do you do it? how often? Have any marital problems come of it?

Of those of you who are open, how many are m/f couples, m/m couples, of f/f couples?

And, in the spirit of countless previous threads..."ask me anything"!