Reply #59: Woah, there. Didn't realize we'd traveled back in time to 1953.

[BlueIris]

"(S)he is messing with a family here."

The person with the commitment is the person responsible for maintaining the commitment. The person who ruined that guy's family is...that guy. Even you admit your friend didn't know he was married until he told her--though, for some perverse reason that doesn't stop you from blaming her, with all of the baseless, unjustifiable judgment that puritanical sexism will permit you. Way to be supportive of your "friend," by the by. No one MADE this guy leave his wife and kids, that was and always will be on HIM. Also? Why would anyone think otherwise? Oh, right, a woman sleeping with a man she isn't married to without getting punished for it is always the bad person! Especially if the guy she didn't know was married when the affair started actually IS married so others can have an excuse for their judgments! How could I have forgotten that?

You do realize it's the 21st century right? Not 1953, not 1895, nothing like that? Don't you have some of your own problems to work on? Homework? College applications? Doing your toe nails?