Reply #22: True story to illustrate JulieRB's point

[Lydia Leftcoast]

The main relationship of my grad school years almost didn't happen, because he assumed (on no evidence whatsoever) that I was seeing someone, when in fact, I was frustrated because he seemed to be flirting with all these other women and ignoring me.

Then I happened to mention in the presence of one of his friends that I was, in fact, not dating anyone.

The next day, he asked me to a concert, and we were together for two years.

So take another look at the women around you. Don't be like the two grad students, newly arrived from an all-male college, who sat at a lunch table with six or seven women one Friday noon and said, "Gee, if we knew some girls, we could go out dancing tonight."