Reply #17: I'm not seeing the connection

[jpgray]

SJ laments how awful kids can be to those they outcast socially, but tittie-twisters and the like don't -cause- this, they are merely means to the end of making someone painfully aware they have been ostracized. If it weren't tittie-twisters, it would be name calling, or shunning, or something. It's never going to be solved by playing whack-a-mole with the methods of choice, because the methods can be changed while the goal of socially outcasting someone remains the same. Do you see what I mean? SJ saw a tittie twister as part and parcel of his social pariah status, whereas a guy on the football team would get one and not think twice about malicious intent. The action is the same, but the interpretation is very different. If you give all the power of defining actions to interpretation whilst ignoring intent and context, a lot of craziness will ensue.