Reply #46: Because people are people.

[Haole Girl]

I wasn't going to comment on this thread because it's just too easy to have a snap judgment. In fact, my first response, was: "Because they are assholes". But, then I remembered...certain instances...certain people I've known and loved, who did have a lot of integrity, still "fell victim" to the cheating game. Why? Is it as simple as saying that people are people? There has been cheating since Adam and Eve. And, even for people who don't have religious beliefs, it's fair to say there has been cheating since mankind first attempted to be monogamous. What has changed, over the years, among other things, is the rapid spread of more disease(s). It really does bother me when people cheat on their spouse or SO and never tell them. That is the way so many diseases are spread.

Also, as far as the original OP statement about, It's a good arrangement for both of us. Surely beats picking up creepy people at clubs or bars.....well, I'm not so sure. Having an "arrangement" just for the physical act of it bothers me. I mean, is it really that simple? There are just too many consequences...emotional, sometimes physical ones. Wouldn't it be better...to just...(well, use your imagination, so-to-speak).

This is an issue that seems very simple on the face of it, but as a person thinks about it...and realizes they know people who've gotten burned by what I call "the game," it's really not simple at all.

One thing I know for relative certaintly-- when someone cheats, someone is bound to get hurt.