Question for marrieds..or living together

[militaryspouse]

Is the workload split 50/50, or do you find that you or your S/O carries the majority of the weight?

I've been a sahm most of our marriage and didn't mind doing the majority of the domesticated things, but now that I am working too, i still find myself doing most if not all things domestic.

For instance I do the budgeting, cook the meals, do the yardwork, take the kids to the park,go to the apointments etc etc.

I haven't cleaned our bathroom(in our maserbedroom) for almost 3 weeks now, waiting to see if he would lift a finger without me asking. Nope! Of course someone would say..well if you want help just ask. Well when I do that, to him I become a nag. Any suggestions on how to get him to take a more active role?