Reply #1: But if divorce cannot be avoided, then the two parties should keep their

[SeattleGirl]

freakin' mouths shut about their problems and their anger in front of their children. I hate that shit so much.

When my daughter's dad and I divorced, we vowed we would never, ever talk badly about each other in front of her. EVER. We may not have been able to make the marriage work, but we made THAT work. She was 2 when we split up. She's now 27, and has told both of us that we kept our word (we did).

A marriage doesn't always work out, but if people focus on their love for their children, the divorce doesn't have to be completely ugly.

I dated a guy once who was divorced. He and his ex, I discovered, were using their children as pawns in their ugly little games against each other. I dumped him, AND I told him why I did. That kind of shit disgusts me beyond words.