Reply #20: About me and my X (she is dead now)

[The Straight Story]

I let go of her, hell I am the one who left her.

So she had a nice body, was blonde, and used to be a professional high diver. Men are not always so shallow that they care about such things. Sadly, some are though....

I left her for an overweight brunette - who was one helluva cool woman. The ONLY reason I ever entertained thoughts of going back to her (less than a few months after I left) was due to my 3 kids.

I then ended up with my current wife - a pretty red head (the one in my Sig line). We drove all the way to Ohio from CA to see my boys and take em on vacation to Kings Island.

The X found out I was with someone else, and that she was here with me (in Ohio). She said I could not take my kids anywhere, but I could meet them at McD's. I took the new wife and when she met her (and her new boyfriend could not stop staring at her) she was a tad pissed. After that day - I never talked to some of my boys again (although 8 years later when she died I got to meet my oldest son and talk to the youngest one on the phone. Still have not talked my boy Nathaniel and it pains me deeply).


---- If he left her I doubt he has forgotten the reasons why, and no matter how you feel about yourself that does not mean he feels the same way.

I don't care if my X won the lotto and wanted me back, no way in hell I would go (of course, that is a mute point now....).

I DID want to talk to her though and be friends, for the sake of the kids and because I never saw the point of hating each other.

My X girlfriend knew I came back to Ohio for weeks at a time, and would have coffee with the X and chat with her - but she was ok with that because I made it clear I loved her first and foremost.

----I Don't know what advice to give you my friend, just thought I would share my experience. If ya ever need to talk, feel free to PM me for my #. I know how hard it can all be. I am still crying to this day about all I have went through (a lot of emotions across the board). You husband is with you for a reason - and maybe he needs to communicate that better at times.

Chin up, and know you have friends here :)