Reply #121: the whole culture in China is like that

[NewJeffCT]

and, there are 1.3 billion Chinese, so there must be something to it.

But, the whole premise of courtship there is if a woman says "no" she really means "yes" or "maybe" - if a woman is interested, she will almost always say "no" to a guy at first, and will often keep saying "no" and sometimes, even being downright insulting to the guy. If she is not interested, she'll either ignore the guy or be nice to him. Not long after I got married to my wife (who is from China), we had dinner with an older Chinese couple. The wife spent a lot of the time insulting her husband, saying how he is bad at this, and bad at that, etc, etc. On the ride home, my wife told me that she can tell they have a really good relationship.