Reply #57: Well, I didn't really give any suggestions.

[noamnety]

I was pretty lacking in constructive advice. :D

I'm more just trying to put forth the other perspective here. I've spent pretty much every holiday for the last decade, every Christmas, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Thanksgiving ... all of it with my inlaws, and they don't feel like my family. I've just sort of written off that I will ever really enjoy a holiday again. I live for the other days, and that's fine. I think it's my lot in life, and I've hit a point of acceptance with it, but sometimes it makes me sad.

How's your husband feel about spending both days with your family? Does he look forward to it, or is he doing it like me, out of a sense of obligation to you?