Reply #26: Another hug, thank you!

[dawg]

I know you are right - there is nothing either one of us could have done. FWIW, I don't think my spouse is interested in pursuing any further relationship with this other man. I think she recognized that he wasn't a "keeper" before the affair even started. I don't know why she did what she did. I'm the one pursuing the divorce. I don't know what she really wants. She doesn't really want to talk about it. I worry that she has some unresolved mental health issues that led to this, but perhaps that is just me trying to find a way to excuse her behavior.

We were one of those "best friend" type of couples, and I thought we were very much in love like a couple of kids right up until the day I found out. I still kind of dream that we will somehow end up back together someday - but I don't know how to get there from here. I guess that's why I feel so pathetic.