Reply #4: In general, I think relationships are more important than careers.

[dawg]

However, it sounds like to me that there are some underlying problems in your relationship that go deeper than the issues of where you both live and work. I'm going through a horrible slow-motion breakup right now, so that may color my response, but I think you should spend some time with your boyfriend discussing your relationship and what you both want out of life. If you love him, give the relationship a chance before you make any drastic decisions. At least the two of you would be able to part ways feeling as if you did all that you could.