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I'm really curious what you call your significant other--particularly in the case of long-term commitment.
Partner? Spouse? Boy/girlfriend? Wife/husband? Lover?
"Partner" seems very business-like, as in "We're partners down at the law firm."
"Spouse" has an unpleasant ring to it.
For my case, "boyfriend" sounds a bit frivolous and unserious.
I don't identify with "husband," because of its definitional root of "manager" or head of household--it seems reactionary.
"Lover" is too sexual seeming and seems outdated...
What to do? I honestly don't know what to say sometimes. I've been with the man for four years and we've made a life commitment, are legal domestic partners, but I don't know what to refer to him as.
I guess this is one of the issues of being gay for some people.
All I know is that it offended me when his sister's husband introduced us as "this is my brother-in-law and his friend." We're definitely NOT friends!
"Friends" are who I hang out with, especially when I've had enough of him! (pretty much just kidding!)
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