Reply #9: What should you do? Live in the present

[velvet]

Four months is not a relationship, it's barely an introduction. Forget setting deadlines, forget the concept of "the one", those are for soapie scripts, points for plots to turn on - real life has no plot. Forget where you might holiday together in a year's time, forget wondering where things are heading. Focus on getting to know each other, because you've hardly started, and on what you're doing together right now, not what you might be to each other in future. Let go of the fairy-tale role-play, as MFM so wisely advises, and let each of you be who you actually are. Live in the present. It's not easy, but it's the only place love will bloom.