Reply #28: This is a secret, so please don't tell anyone, but...

[Bucky]

I (clandestinely) believe in love. It's a good thing and it's worth waiting for. But that said, your needs are not of a lesser value than his. He needs to shit or get off the pot. Um, not that you're the toilet in this analogy... But it just strikes me as ungallant for him to string you along. I've done that to girls in the past and I look back on that and realize I was being a selfish jackass for doing so. I don't impugn his motivations here; he might just be genuinely too scared to make a commitment. But then again, I think I was jack ass in response to being hurt myself. Karma may be a bitch, but that's no excuse for me acting like a son of a bitch.

If you have made it clear to him that you're looking for a long term commitment, then in the short term he owes you, and you deserve, a yea or nay. In my opinion, of course.