Reply #4: I understand. I'm basically there in the same spot.

[SarahB]

Yesterday, was actually our 13th anniversary, but I said nothing because the last thing I needed was any congratulations. We're the same way- trying to be very amicable for the children, are going to be together under the same roof for some time, want to stop pretending, should have thought about this 6 years ago. Most people don't get it or get us. I don't think he gets me most of the time especially. Hell, I don't. I love this man. He's my best friend, but the things he wants from a relationship and the things I want are different in many different aspects. I was only 19 when I married him. He was 28. I still had a lot of growing to do and the person I am now is not the person I was at 19. I'm not sure where life will take me, but I also know, I don't want to wake up one day and I'm 50, 60, or 70 years old having the same regrets.