Reply #41: that is way too harsh!

[Runcible Spoon]

the fact that her mother loves her and supports her enough to help her through this should be enough to set her straight, though counseling would be apppropriate. I'm sorry, but where I go to school, a large public university, illegal drug use is the norm and not the exception. This is not to excuse her coke use, but just to point out that only a small majority who use, whether it be adderall abuse for studying, coke blowing at a party, or underage drinking enough booze to pass out, is actually ever caught. Now, I am a grad student and have lost whatever connections I used to have to get drugs, I don't buy the line that she is some druggie scumbag because she happens to know people who use/sell drugs. To cut off support now might cause her to permanently drop out of school and if she has a "chip" now, that might tip it off into a full fledged addiction. IMHO, if she was otherwise doing fine in school and seemed otherwise adjusted, I would stick behind her so that this incident does not ruin her life. If there were other warning signs, it is time to get her into a addiction program NOW. Paying a lawyer to help is not a "crutch", it is what any loving parent should do.